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I was at my shitty job today, eating a sub from Quiznos.

As I was sitting there, spacing out and trying to forget that I was sitting in a cubicle, I started looking at the paper wrapper for the sandwich.

I didn’t look at what was written there, but I had the cognition that somebody chose those words and graphics.  Somebody chose that layout.

But the fact of the matter is, it probably wasn’t chosen by a marketing genius.  In fact, it probably wasn’t even chosen by someone who likes their job.

Somewhere else, maybe in some distant city, there is probably a man or woman sitting in a cubicle designing text to go on the wrappers for Quizno’s subs.  He probably thinks his job is meaningless and stupid.  He probably thinks his life is mediocre.

He almost certainly has hopes and dreams.  He almost certainly has potential that he knows is in him, but isn’t being taking advantage of.

But there he is, sitting in a shitty cubicle, putting together stuff that nobody cares about and will have no impact on the world.  There he is doing work that matters to no one and will be forgotten if it was ever really noticed at all.

This was a thought I had.  But it’s not meant to be a downer.  It really isn’t.

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I was having a conversation with Legend this afternoon about taking effective action to reach my goals.

Specifically, we were talking about blow-outs and how crashing and burning with a girl or a few girls is a very good sign.

Why? Because it means you’re truly putting yourself out there and experimenting to the limit.

So yeah, I admit it. I still get blown out. But I also have great success because I put myself out there all the way – anyone who says they have a perfect track record is lying to you.

In fact, even some of the top “gurus” in the field (who Legend and I have hung out with) admit to having true success with only 1 out of 3 women.

Now before you start spitting on a 33% success rate for the most well-known gurus in the pick-up artist arena, think about this: A 33% success rate means having the most beautiful woman you can imagine eating out of the palm of your hand, willing to do nearly anything for you.

If that means having 2 “unsuccessful” interactions with 2 other incredibly gorgeous women before I reach that third successful one… that’s a deal I can live with. And I don’t think there’s any guy who would turn that deal down either.

Anyway, there was a point I was driving toward here. I had said that, if anything, I should be aiming to have more blow-outs because that shows that I am truly getting out of my comfort zone.

Don’t get me wrong – since we started Pick-up Evolution in 2008, my comfort zone has expanded greatly from where it was.

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