Posts Tagged “seduction community”

It’s the first December edition of Evolving Links, where I link you to the best PUA Blogs, PUA Articles and Seduction Resources I have found from the past week.

Robbo’s Flirting Blog » FEARING/RESISTING THE FEAR

Hear is a great reframe I want to share with you. I learned this in the IL Program of Landmark and its been a great tool ever since.Lets look at fear. What is fear? Fear is defined as a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of …

PUA Training Blog » Personalitay Attraction Wheel

This is a system that describes 5 types of attractive man, and it is from the ancient times, long before the pharoah and all that shit. Here’s a basic break … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Pick-up instruction and dating advice is not one size fits all - the instruction you subscribe to needs to be targeted toward someone with your personality and your characteristics.

I just finished reading a newsletter from one of the numerous dating/pick-up/seduction instructors out there (one that I like, actually). He was talking about how he worked on his style, confidence and humor and as a result, women loved him… but only as a friend.

Then with his easy-to-use method of sparking sexual connections, it completed the puzzle and now he has abundant sex.

Fair enough, I could believe that. But it sparked a thought - most people who get really good and develop their own products market the “antidote” to their dating woes. In other words, they sucked before, then they found what they needed to work on (the antidote), worked on it, then had success.

As a result, … [Click Here to Read Post] »

According to the “seduction community”, natural game is all the rage now. I mean, just ask several of the pick-up gurus from years past that used to talk about how great routine-based game was. They’ll tell you that these days, they just act natural and it works way better.

So men around the world tune into what the gurus are saying and say, “Wow, these guys got stunning results before and now they say they discovered something even better? This is amazing!!! I’m going to buy all their natural-game products!”

Let me point something out. These guys can act natural because they studied routine-based pick-up for YEARS!! They went out multiple nights a week hammering away on women with routine-based pick-up routines… to the point where they could probably recite the “C and U shaped smile” routine in their sleep. Who do you think lies more, by the way?

My point is that even though the community (or really, the marketing to the community) is geared towards natural game now, it is for two reasons:

1) Natural game is being touted … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Maybe I mean over-studying seduction, really. Here’s something I’ve thought about lately regarding studying game:

With every school of pick-up technique or seduction you study, it seems that it casts doubts on other schools.

Think about it - most of the products out there have different views of how the whole “game” works. And most of the time, in making their point, they will uproot other schools of thought on the subject. Sometimes it is to gain greater control over the industry. Sometimes it is with a genuine, heartfelt desire from the instructor to “save” the audience from heart-ache. I would say that all of the time the instructor really truly believes they are right and they deliver their message with 100% conviction.

I remember when I would immerse myself in … [Click Here to Read Post] »

When Style’s/Neil Strauss’s The Game came onto the shelves, learning technique to pick up women reached a new peak. Prior to that point, there was a good 15 years where men swapped ideas, stories and techniques within the privacy of internet forums (even before the internet was “the internet”).

What motivates guys to get into this? How did this material come about?

I think, at the root of it, guys get denied in some way, shape, or form. Maybe women tell them that they only want to be friends, then start dating some “jerk”. Maybe women think the guy is weird/awkward. Maybe women just don’t notice the guy at all. Some guys get sad, some get bitter, some get angry and some get scared.

There comes a point where they are so uncomfortable … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I want to be great at picking up beautiful women. I want to be great at inner game, outer game, natural game, seduction, etc.

So I read a lot on the subject. And not just courses/books- I sift through forums, blogs, newsletters and just about anywhere else pick-up is discussed.

I always cringe when I come across the “all-you-need-is” post. We’ll call it an AYNIP (since the seduction community loves acronyms.)

AYNIPs are written by one of two types of posters: either a guy who might have some limited experience with women but knows nothing about structured game OR … [Click Here to Read Post] »