In Legend’s most recent post, he said, “The goal is to get into a conversation with a girl regardless of the latest trend in the community.”
I started to write a reply to his post, but after a while I realized that this response was long enough to be a post, so here it is:
I think the “seduction community” is kind of a funny concept. Really, the community started out as a collective of guys who wanted to improve their skills with women, but wanted to avoid the stigma society places on a guy asking for help with women. And although there were a few products out there, most of the help guys received was from each other.
These days, pick-up material is well developed. There are hundreds of products available on pick-up, dating, relationships, seduction, etc. And if anyone new wants to break into the market, they have to debunk all of the other excellent material that has come out before it and convince you that there’s is better.
The whole “natural” thing is just the new way to market a product.
There were some guys going around teaching Mystery Method verbatim, but then criticizing Mystery because his method isn’t natural and there’s is…
At the heart of the matter, I notice all that stuff, but I try to ignore it.
Frankly, I study this stuff for one reason and one reason only: for my own self-improvement. So that I can have better relationships with the type of women I truly want.
And for that reason, I think it is ludicrous to invest in any method that has no real discernible structure or way to measure back on what’s been accomplished. At the same time, I think it’s a ludicrous way to live if the method does not take into account your emotional state or hers and is simply a mechanical set of steps to perform.
I believe that ultimately a superior product will combine what is being taught in the “natural” schools as well as what made the original “routine-based” schools so great.
In my next post, I’m going to explore the trends of the “seduction community” and their pros and cons.
But for now, in the interest of learning, I shut my ears off as soon as I hear the instructor on one program bashing another method (whether it’s implicit or explicit). I believe it is best to experience the different paradigms presented by each instructor through taking action in the real world and then forming an opinion.
If you just follow the latest trend, you’re just following marketing instead of your own self-improvement…
Thoughts?
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