I think that having disappointing, sad and painful relationships definitely had an influence on me discovering the pick-up/seduction community. When I felt that kind of pain or rejection, I would feel it so strongly that I would say, “No more. I will never leave myself vulnerable to this happening ever again.” As a result, I would close down more and more of myself to guarantee that I would not be hurt again.
At the same time, I believe that a relationship can only go as deep as to the degree that you are open and vulnerable to it. In other words, if I do not put myself in a position where I are risking anything… if I do not put myself in a position where I will feel anything for a girl… if I give nothing and only take… then I will have no depth to my relationships.
Sure, I may have women who are very attracted to me. Sure, I may have sex and women throwing themselves at me. And make no mistake, I am NOT saying these are bad things – they’re great! But this is not depth. It’s only narcissism.
Depth in a relationship, I believe, comes from [Click to Continue Reading…]
{ 9 comments }