Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 18: Framing and Frames

What are frames

Definition:

Framing is the basis to every aspect of your game.  Framing is basically having the right attitude or perspective while interacting with women, which is very important. It is how you view the interaction and it is the underlying context to the interaction.  One of our strategies is going to be intentionally choosing the most strategic viewpoint and attitude to use at different stages of the interaction.

In any communication, there are all communications, facial expressions and body language that is neutral.  Sometimes these things do have a motive or intention and that motive or intention might be clear or ambiguous.  Our minds have an urge to give meaning to everything.  Frames are powerful because they are the lens you look through to determine the meaning of an these elements of an interaction.  Frames tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies.

For example, someone who believes he is well-liked may interpret a rude comment toward him as if it were a joke and laugh about it.  His response is likeable and his belief that he is well liked becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – he looks through the belief that people like him and so he responds in a likeable way.

Another person who believes he is disliked by everyone may interpret that same rude comment as a cutting personal attack and fly into a fit of rage.  His response repels people and it too completes the self-fulfilling prophecy.

Same rude comment, two different interpretations because Read the rest of this entry »

Edge and I have been putting together a short book on everything we’ve been doing over the last six months in game.  It’s going to be a 30+ articles that will be posted over a three-month period on the blog and released to the newsletter as Free Book to our dedicated readers.

These articles are going to detail everything that we have currently been doing.  As we are releasing these I want to my move forward and evolve into a more advanced way of doing things.

The more you study this, the more you start to realize that you can’t have a rigid game model and at the same time if you want to actually get anywhere you can’t have no model at all.  I’ve found that you need something to practice and the whole idea of “just do it” is a little silly.

Lately I’ve been looking for something that is more fluid and is really the next model of game.  I’ll be posting about it in my next few posts.

I want to strip away the old teachings and move forward to version 3 of Read the rest of this entry »