Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 25

Rapport

The key to creating a powerful connection is really making the other person feel it.  Not just talking about something but to really feel a powerful feeling inside of them. This feeling of connection is a surefire way to create a powerful connection. The old Speed Seduction rule of going first is extremely important here when connecting with girls.  If you want to have someone feel a powerful connection with you then you need to connect and get excited about something for yourself before they can get excited.

As I went out more and more, I noticed that the girls that I would connect with the best where the ones where we ended up talking about things that were really important to me. Things like friends, family, and my work.  When it came down to it I really was talking about my Passions in life.  If you start talking about things that really get you amped up and excited then whoever you are talking to is going to get amped up and excited.  Feelings are contagious.  If you can create amazing powerful good feelings in yourself then the girl that you are talking to will catch those feelings and start feeling them.  They will then associate the feelings they are getting with you.

Passions

I have found that to really get amped up and excited Read the rest of this entry »

Rapport gives us the potential for creating long lasting, synergistic relationships, but can also be misused. Rapport is a tool much in the same way that a hammer is. Just as a scalpel can be used to heal or to hurt, utilize it to heal. You must use rapport to heal or it will come around and bite you in the ass and you will not succeed in your goals. The best thing you can do is to use rapport in an ethical way to benefit all involved.

Use these techniques to create win-win, synergistic relationships.

BREAKING DOWN COMMUNICATION

55% of communication is physiology, otherwise known as body language, and 38% is in ones voice; tonality, tempo, timbre & volume specifically. The other 7% is the words that you use. Since body language is an often talked about subject in the community, and tonality is pretty much common sense to all of us, I’ll be talking specifically about how you can make the MOST out of this last little piece of the puzzle.

What Words Are Comprised Of

There are 4 key parts we have after we break down the last 7% of communication. Words are made up of predicates, key words, common experiences and content chunks. I’ll be focusing on each part and also providing some other explanations of things that will be helpful to you in understanding how to utilize these techniques.

Let’s begin, shall we?

PREDICATES

Predicate: the word is defined as the part of a sentence or clause containing a verb and stating something about the subject. In NLP, the predicates people use often clue you in to their Representational System.

Ok, TIME OUT!

What is a Representational System, you ask?

Representational Systems

There are 4 basic types of people:

1. Primarily Visual

2. Primarily Kinesthetic

3. Primarily Auditory

4. Primarily Auditory Digital

Allow me to explain about these types of people real quick.

How people learn, memorize and communicate fall into these 4 Representational Systems:

1. Visual – by looking, seeing and visualizing

2. Kinesthetic – by touching, feeling and doing

3. Auditory – by listening and hearing

4. Auditory Digital – using logic, understanding and strategy

There are ways for you to train yourself to easily spot each type of person, but that is beyond the scope of this post.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s get back to predicates.

Before the quick background info, we agreed that the definition of predicate was basically a verb. Now let me explain what the importance of them actually is.

The verbs that people use when they speak often dictate what type of Representational System they prefer.

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 10: Creating Rapport, Deep comfort,Wide Rapport, and Connection Part B

Legend:

In the seduction community, there are two types of rapport:

Wide rapport

Would consist of talking about any number of subjects and keeping it light / surface-level as you talk about a ton of things.  You talk about your job, talk about her job, her about pets, talk about what you like to do for fun… really anything.  The principle behind wide rapport is that you both get to know a little bit about everything in each others lives.

I suggest get to know a little bit about her then pick one topic and delve deeper into it.

Deep rapport

Depending on the situation, I think deep rapport is a great Read the rest of this entry »

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 10: Connecting Part A

Legend:

What to talk about once you hook

Once you’re reaching a point where a girl wants you to stay and talk, I assume attraction and begin to connect with her. The point of forming a connection is really to figure out some commonalities and things that you can do together to set up a future date. Some people argue that they want to talk about crazy deep subjects but for now I would suggest that you just get used to talking about what each of you do for work, what you guys do for fun, and if you want to get into it really what you’re passionate about.

Edge:

I would say that conversations in clubs should really focus more on vibe than subject matter. In other words, DEFINITELY don’t try to be deep or profound – keep it fun, light and engaging, but not deep.

I very much enjoy having deep, profound conversations about different subjects. But I can guarantee that even if you manage to get a girl engaged into a deep conversation with you, she will run off the moment she sees something shiny-looking and fun (metaphorically speaking). Women do not go to clubs to think. They go there to feel.

Legend:

Creating rapport and connection also known as building comfort