Mystery’s approach to gaming is very inspiring. One of the major elements to his game that I want to integrate into myself is the ability to think of everything as practice. Somehow to detach my ego from each individual interaction.
If you look at everything scientifically, almost like a social experiment, you can remove the rejection element. I believe in fully embracing rejection on one side, but at the same time there must be a way to look at everything as just practice. Get rid of the whole rejection frame. This will allow us to really go after the girl that we really want. We are all here to develop a skill set. Once I integrate this, everything will be much easier. I believe the key to it is detaching your EGO from each and every interaction. This will allow us to really pull ourselves back out of the interaction and at the same time push each interaction without the outcome weighing on us.
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What we focus on will define all of our interactions. As I have become better and better with every week of practice, I find it is harder to detach myself from an outcome. The irony in all of this is that going out and doing this in itself is a paradox. You have to each have faith in yourself, but at the same time not put demands on yourself. But even still you have to take action. If you don’t expect anything from yourself, then you open the door to trying new things. This is a current sticking point I am working through.
For me it’s easier to open sets and test out new things if I don’t hold in my head that I am good at anything, even if sometimes I’m very good. This is a mental trick that I do to not experience approach anxiety, but not necessarily the end solution. I really need to get back and think about the long process and end game, not just worry about the here and now.
I believe the most important part about focusing on the process is that it will allow you to detach from individual actions where normally [Click to Continue Reading…]
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