I was having a conversation with some guys about the seduction community this past Saturday night.

These were guys that had read up on a bunch of material, read “The Game”, etc.  We were sharing our thoughts on the techniques mentioned in that book and a lot of the techniques that have come and gone in the seduction community.

I want to make a comment about the seduction community and how it came to be.  The seduction community started out during the late 80’s/early 90’s.  Feminism was rampant and the pendulum of political correctness had swung WAAAY over to an almost anti-male sentiment.  I feel like there are still some lingering after-effects of that time even today, but for the most part, the era of extreme male bashing and feminazism has past.

Still, it was during that time that Speed Seduction came to be.  In fact, as Neil Strauss mentions in “The Game”, that was also the time when the internet was beginning to form.  It didn’t look like the internet we know today, but nerdy kids like me can remember the days of BBS (Bulletin Board Systems), Echo-mail and Newsgroups.

This atmosphere helped form a cohesion among men wanting to improve their skills with women.  Think about it.  Men were afraid to speak frankly about wanting to be successful Read the rest of this entry »

In the first post I made on what I call “focus game“, I advocated not focusing on elements that are not helpful to the overall conversation you are having with the woman. In this post, I am going to discuss some examples and ideas on empowering areas we can be focusing on to improve our overall success with women and people in general.

I think it is a fallacy to believe that what you are thinking is private.

I am not saying that other people can read your thoughts like a psychic, but I am a strong believer that people (especially women) can pick up the vibe of what you’re thinking.

And I believe the reasons for it are subtle, but concrete (not airy-fairy woo-woo stuff).

I think all thoughts have power.

I think that a single thought can very slightly change your tonality, your facial expression, your overall delivery… and women are biologically designed to decode all of these subtle transmissions, allowing them to infer the overall jist of what’s on your mind at any given moment. Granted, women may sometimes assert that you’re thinking something that you’re not (as part of a social strategy), but generally Read the rest of this entry »

As you may have read, I have re-committed myself to doing yoga consistently. Like a shower – everyday.

Someone came to PuE recently and said, “That’s great that yoga/meditation helped you get rid of anxiety, but can meditation and/or yoga help pick up chicks?”

Based on what I’ve been seeing… YES.

But there’s a missing step. Let’s say that some asked me, “Can exercise help you lift things?” Yes, indirectly. If you exercise and build your muscles, your muscles will help lift things. The exercise gives you the muscle, the muscle does the job.

In the same way, yoga / meditation will build your ability to stay present to the interaction. Your presence will be calm and stable, not jittery and nervous or foggy and “checked-out”. And because Read the rest of this entry »

I’m finding that your attention and focus can have a tremendous impact on the entire interaction. I want to talk a little about something I call “focus game” and how I believe it can be used to improve your skills with women / dating.

I am chatting with a girl on Friday in a bar, when all of a sudden, some local radio station starts up a contest and begins loudly announcing their crap. I turn and look at the announcer and then turn back to the girl I was talking to. I noticed she was facing the announcers and then returned to me as soon as I started talking again.

At this moment, I thought to myself, “This radio stuff is going to keep going on. I don’t want her to Read the rest of this entry »

I used to rate interactions on how long I could stay in the conversation. I would be talking to some girl and the conversation would be meandering down some boring path, but she hadn’t walked away so I still felt I was “in”.

Kind of silly actually because inevitably the girl would be bored out of her mind and disappear.

These days, I keep pulse on this question, “How much is she reaching for more?” If she’s not reaching for more in some way, shape or form, then I am not doing my job. The best kind of interaction would be one where I’m expending minimal effort of baiting her to want more while she is reaching more and more for me. When she reaches, I would set a frame and keep escalating Read the rest of this entry »

I used to rate interactions on how long I could stay in the conversation. I would be talking to some girl and the conversation would be meandering down some boring path, but she hadn’t walked away so I still felt I was “in”.

Kind of silly actually because inevitably the girl would be bored out of her mind and disappear.

These days, I keep pulse on this question, “How much is she reaching for more?” If she’s not reaching for more in some way, shape or form, then I am not doing my job. The best kind of interaction would be one where I’m expending minimal effort of baiting her to want more while she is reaching more and more for me. When she reaches, I would set a frame and keep escalating Read the rest of this entry »