Chasing State:

While I think it’s great to be in state while your out, being in state is probably the least important thing in pickup because you absolutely don’t need it to accomplish anything. State is nothing more than a tool for you to use. Furthermore, by worrying about being in state or waiting for it to happen, you’re shooting yourself in the foot instead of just getting on with having fun. Waiting to be in state is counterproductive and will actually throw you into a vicious cycle of negative feelings. Forget about “trying” to be in state. Go out and have fun.

2 Kinds of State: Validation Based State and Pure State Along with chasing state you want to avoid validation based state. There are so many guys out there who use attention from girls as fuel for “being in state”. When they get IOI’s from girls they emotionally react to them, taking their feelings of being happy and channeling that into a state they normally aren’t in. Doing this on a consistent basis is actually using validation in a way that hurts them in the long run and will cause them to be state dependent and “addicted” to “state. In other words, they are taking energy from an external source and using it to motivate them. Breaking free from being addicted to Validation Based State is not easy because the person has to completely retrain themselves.

On the other end of the scale, Pure State is when you’re happy being Read the rest of this entry »

Opening Other People – Introvert Mode You should be aware of which mode the person is in because it helps you gauge the potential difficulty of opening the set. For instance, if you want to open a girl walking down the street but she’s in Introvert Mode, your opening line or immediate follow up statement (your transition) has to be powerful enough to hook her into conversation with you. If it isn’t, she’ll stay in Introvert Mode. Do take into account the fact that there will always be other things that factor into whether you’ll be able to hook her or not, such as; is she on the phone, is she late; those kind of things. If you succeed you bring her into Extrovert Mode and you’ll be able to communicate with her easily.

Opening Other People – Extrovert Mode When people are out being social, they are in extrovert mode. They are generally easier to open for the simple fact that they are already out of Introvert Mode. You still have to hook the set with interesting discussion though, or you are perceived as not being high value.

Opening Other People – Group Introvert Mode If people are talking to each to Read the rest of this entry »

Picking Up Girls FOOL PROOF WAY: Hosting your own House Parties

The best part about gaming in a closed social circle is that you can set up situations where you are in complete control.  House parties are unlike any other environment unless you’re one of the lucky ones to own a club or bar. House parties give you an extreme amount of control and power. In my opinion, they are the best way to get girls.

It’s really like shooting fish in a barrel.

If you want a truly powerful and fool-proof way to get any girl, then this is it.  Really as I just said and I want to stress this that the best comparable thing to having your own house party is like owning your own high-end club in a giant city.   You decide who comes in and you decide who gets kicked out.  You are in control.

If you go to college or like to have social gatherings, then creating a situation where you get a nonstop-flow of girls is extremely easy.

To do this it is all about being the leader and being in complete control while tweaking your social proof through the roof.  Don’t worry, it is easier done than even said.  It comes down to 3 simple steps.

1. Be the Organizer
2. Make it the best event ever (we talk in detail about how to do this)
3. Tweak your Clientele

Everyone is always looking for something to do.  Step up and be the organizer.  Talk up your events and plan them well.  Most people are too lazy to plan anything.  If you take a tiny bit of initiative and get the ball rolling, you stand miles above the competition and you are in control and in the role of the leader.  You are automatically the leader.

Being the host gives you a powerful position, one where you can make every event the best event ever. This is way simpler then you might think.  It comes down to two things.

1.  An intelligent knowledge of party logistics.  This includes things like making sure you have enough beer, liquor and, of course, good iPod DJ skills.
2. Making sure everyone is having a good time.

Making sure everyone has a good time runs right into the 3rd step of social circle domination; tweaking your clientele. This comes down to inviting girls and more girls.  The motto I use is that girls bring value and guys suck out value.  Girls talk with each other and guys get drunk and want to fight.

Tweaking your clientele takes time, but it can be done simply by repeatedly throwing get-togethers Read the rest of this entry »

When it comes to gaming without game, I want to first talk to you about building social circle game.  Simple effective strategies that Edge and I discovered to create success where I had 42 girls in one room fighting over me every weekend.  Doing it all without any ‘traditional game’.

Its actually extremely simple so keep reading and YOU can have girls fighting for you if you read and follow the steps in this and the next few posts on social circle game. 

First off, why is a social circle, small town, or college so different from meeting women out in a big city?

Simple, there is limited number of people in a smaller environment.

When you’re in a smaller environment, you don’t have the luxury of field testing your game and learning to calibrate by approaching 5000 women. You game ‘traditionally’ and you have to get it right the first time or you run the risk of forever being labeled as the weird guy using lines like that VH1 show.

I like to think of everything from a small town, a social circle, and even a college or university as just one social circle.  A small town, a college, and a university are giant social circles, but they are still social circles.   I call it a closed social circle because you tend to see the same people over and over again or at least the same core people.

Whether you all go to the same school, live near each other, or have a mutual friend: there is the fact that you have something in common and that makes the world of difference when compared to doing traditional cold approaches in a large city.

This is how I think about it: When you are out at a bar or club, you can go out and practice anything you want. You have the ability to screw up and still go back to the same bar next weekend and no one from the week before will be there or if they are they certainly won’t remember you.  This gives you time to practice and fine-tune your ‘game.’

Plain and simple you don’t have the luxury of testing out tactics and techniques or “warming up” in closed social circle, instead you have to go under the radar in a way people won’t even realize your ‘gaming’.

I am sure a lot of you guys have read plenty of stuff on pick-up and tried a few things here and there.  You’ve probably even had a little success from time to time, but when you think about applying it in a small social setting like a social circle, a college, a small town or in a group of friends, you find that a lot of what has been written doesn’t make practical sense.

In fact, most guys say that they can’t practice “game” in the PUA-sense around people who know them for one reason or another.  Maybe you feel embarrassed or scared or feel like your friends “just wouldn’t understand”.  I would say that those feeling of  reluctance to use classic PUA game in close company is probably a very good fear to have – if you think using traditional stuff is unusual, weird and creepy to the average person, then that’s a clue that it’s time to explore some down-to-earth alternatives.

Simply put:  Most of what’s out there is geared toward meeting women at bars, clubs, and during the day in a giant city that has a huge population Read the rest of this entry »

In my last post, I was discussing how I feel it is important to study material based upon its practicality and not on whether it’s the lastest trend in the community, whether you’re studing seduction / pick-up artist techniques / dating tips or anything else.

See, when some new method or school comes out, there’s always a section that discredits all of the other schools (their competition) that came before it. At the same time, a lot of those same authors acknowledge that the method they’re bashing did in fact work! “Now it worked, but…” and then they go into way that functional method is bad and needs to be abandoned.

I study this stuff for my own results, my own self-improvement. Frankly, I don’t care where I am getting the information or inspiration. If it works and helps me improve myself, then I am all for it – even if the method is “unpopular” or “outdated” by community standards.

Let’s look at some of the trends in this area of self-improvement, from the dawn of the “seduction community”:

1991 until about 2000: Read the rest of this entry »

I believe that being a story teller is a very attractive quality in pick-up. These days people tend to boil pick up down to two sections. Natural game and Routine based game.

I have been struggling with the thought of just going natural for a long time. I tried extensively. It didn’t work well. My old natural self is not a guy that approaches or pushes the envelope. The whole “just do it” is not for me. Some people need structure.

Instead I want to have stories from my life that I can use to demonstrate value.

Not some one else’s stories, but my own. To do this, I need to create stories from my life that I can use to convey my identity. Basically to put it in less nerdish-talk, I need stories that I can use to tell people who I am.

Mystery calls this Read the rest of this entry »