I was having a conversation with Legend this afternoon about taking effective action to reach my goals.
Specifically, we were talking about blow-outs and how crashing and burning with a girl or a few girls is a very good sign.
Why? Because it means you’re truly putting yourself out there and experimenting to the limit.
So yeah, I admit it. I still get blown out. But I also have great success because I put myself out there all the way – anyone who says they have a perfect track record is lying to you.
In fact, even some of the top “gurus” in the field (who Legend and I have hung out with) admit to having true success with only 1 out of 3 women.
Now before you start spitting on a 33% success rate for the most well-known gurus in the pick-up artist arena, think about this: A 33% success rate means having the most beautiful woman you can imagine eating out of the palm of your hand, willing to do nearly anything for you.
If that means having 2 “unsuccessful” interactions with 2 other incredibly gorgeous women before I reach that third successful one… that’s a deal I can live with. And I don’t think there’s any guy who would turn that deal down either.
Anyway, there was a point I was driving toward here. I had said that, if anything, I should be aiming to have more blow-outs because that shows that I am truly getting out of my comfort zone.
Don’t get me wrong – since we started Pick-up Evolution in 2008, my comfort zone has expanded greatly from where it was.
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Part 6: Overcoming AA
Legend:
Overcoming Approach Anxiety
Permanently overcoming approach anxiety comes down to progressively desensitizing ourselves to the approach. It will take a lot of work and many approaches, but I believe we can get there just like we can conquer any fear.
Dealing with approach anxiety in the field is only accomplished by pushing through the fear. Once we take action and start to approach it becomes much easier. Using tactics like immediately approaching the first group you see when you enter a venue and utilizing Mystery’s 3 second rule (where you see the girl you want and you immediately approach her, within 3 seconds) will help you immensely with approach anxiety.
If you follow the rule of always being in set (that is, always being in a conversation with people), even if you’re only talking to guys, as long as you are talkative and pushing forward you’ll avoid a lot of anxiety.
My simple advice: Act before you can think yourself out of taking action. Hesitation kills motivation.
Bottom line the more that you practice and gain reference experiences, the easier it will become.
Edge:
Getting Over Approach Anxiety Through Visualization
I heard about a scientific study that was done [Click to Continue Reading…]
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I was having a conversation with Legend this afternoon about taking effective action to reach my goals.