Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 6: Overcoming AA

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Overcoming Approach Anxiety

Permanently overcoming approach anxiety comes down to progressively desensitizing ourselves to the approach. It will take a lot of work and many approaches, but I believe we can get there just like we can conquer any fear.

Dealing with approach anxiety in the field is only accomplished by pushing through the fear. Once we take action and start to approach it becomes much easier. Using tactics like immediately approaching the first group you see when you enter a venue and utilizing Mystery’s 3 second rule (where you see the girl you want and you immediately approach her, within 3 seconds) will help you immensely with approach anxiety.

If you follow the rule of always being in set (that is, always being in a conversation with people), even if you’re only talking to guys, as long as you are talkative and pushing forward you’ll avoid a lot of anxiety.

My simple advice: Act before you can think yourself out of taking action. Hesitation kills motivation.

Bottom line the more that you practice and gain reference experiences, the easier it will become.

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Getting Over Approach Anxiety Through Visualization

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 6: Approach Anxiety and why we have it.

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Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety really encompasses any fear that you may experience about starting conversations with strangers. I believe this comes about from being socially conditioned not to talk to strangers our entire lives.

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We Created Approach Anxiety

Let’s look at some of the social conditioning that we’ve seen as men throughout our lives.  I live in America where media images of love, dating, sex and relationships are abundant.

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After my last post this brings me to a question of game mode. Is game something that you turn on and off?

Should it be?

I don’t think so, but the way many of us practice it and designate time for it, it becomes an on and off switch. I think this leads to a bad habit. Although a better habit than not approaching at all, I believe it can stunt your development in getting the girl of your dreams. Things in your mind may tell you, it’s not the right situation to approach girls or some other limiting belief.

I think this lies in the frame that your mind puts on interactions. If you frame it as going out to pick up girls or going out to seduce them or get their numbers, then society has put that into a negative context. Even if you don’t realize it, I think it’s important to think about now. This in itself induces a predatorial frame. An underlying frame of needing something and taking something.

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Lately I’ve been thinking about what motivates us to take action versus what will stop us dead in our tracks. Further, I’ve been asking myself what is it that happens when we shift from one scenario to the other?

Ultimately, it’s the frame that we put on things. Which brings me to today’s subject: One man’s “rejection” is another man’s “success”.

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I’ve noticed that there are some things that will happen in an interaction that will leave me feeling rejected. Yet, when they happen to Legend, he turns ON. A woman could Read the rest of this entry »