And that’s a great thing.

This is going to seem like a contradictory post from my first one last week but it’s more of a compliment. To prove such I’ll start by using another Tyler Durden quote.

“I say never be complete, I say stop being perfect, I say let’s evolve, let the chips fall where they may.”

While you may have goals and specific things that you may want to accomplish when it comes to pickup and your overall personal development, it’s important to understand that this thing called “life” will happen and in an instant, change the game on you. The key to your success journey is to just go with it.

When I finished school and went back to Boston, I had absolutely NO clue what was going to happen. I had visions of living with a few of my best friends, getting a kick ass job in design and being able to hang out with my old high school friends again, since I didn’t get to hang with them for nearly 5 years.

None of those things happened.

I ended up living at home with my parents, couldn’t get a job in Read the rest of this entry »

The other night I had a conversation with my ex-girlfriend. Doesn’t happen often – frankly she’s been cold with me for many months now and it’s clear that even the friendship that we once had has gone sour. I’ve wanted to hold onto the hope that we’d be able to at least stay friends and have some kind of closeness, but it’s clear that it’s time for me to let go.

So what is letting go? Letting go is refusing to feed the thoughts about another person anymore. Just refusing to entertain them. Whether that means just being unreactive when the thought comes up or thinking about something (anything) else… When I stop entertaining thoughts on anything, it takes the emotional wind out of that thought’s sails and it disappears.

In my mind, I still remember all the great times we had together. I remember the ups and the downs and I don’t regret any of it. Sure, there were lessons learned on both our parts and things each of us would have done differently, but really the relationship was amazing. I still hold her in the most loving place in my thoughts.

But in her mind, I am not Read the rest of this entry »

Last Saturday night was amazing. Plain and simple. It was a first of a record high. Audio coming soon.

I followed all my rules and got myself into a great talkative flow state.

High lights of the night Edge opened a set on the street and I plowed straight into this girl we locked eyes and I amped it up like crazy. I went after her with out let up. I let it go and everything I had been working on in the past months just clicked. She was by far one of the hottest girls I had ever gone after. Mid solid 9’s Blonde Swedish. I toyed with her teased her she tried to shit test me with what I was wearing and I out witted her. Teasing back and forth and making her do spins for me. Qualified the crap out of her.

Something I’ve noticed with qualification: it really puts the girls on the spot and they need to pause to react to it. Then they really really feel it and start to Read the rest of this entry »

This is my working rules for how to have a good night every night. Although they are not required, every night I follow these guidelines I’ve set out everything seems to go really well. When I have a bad night I can usually trace it back to not following one of these. This will help lead toward finally not giving a fuck fully. I talk a lot about these on 7.19.08 in the Field debrief audio section of the blog. This is a working set that I and Edge have been thinking about.

Rules

1. Set your criterion for success to going out. Plain and simple nothing more nothing less. Go out.

2. Vocal warm ups. Warm up your voice. Sing in your car and warm your voice up, really open it up full full force. Personally I have to top out my voice, singing a song and getting extremely amped up. This warms it up for me to be able to project really well in venues where the music is insanely loud.

3. Pump your own state with craziness. Act like a Read the rest of this entry »