When I first learned about pick-up artists and the “seduction community” back in 1999, I can remember the thoughts that went through my head.
“Is it really possible to meet beautiful women and just… pick them up? Is this real or is it a marketing scheme? If it works, will it work for me?”
And so I explored. I read. I visited websites and read more. I visited forums and read more still. I watched videos, listened to audio and practiced NLP self-improvement techniques.
But I didn’t do one thing… one very important thing, which was to TAKE ACTION IN THE REAL WORLD.
That’s one of the reasons why I harp on that point so much here. I wasted so much time “studying” when in reality, you can’t START with studying… studying only really helps after you’ve put in some real time and effort into doing your best in the real world then consulting the materials available. Reading won’t give you game. Taking action and practicing in real life will…
I hate to say it, but I spent years studying when I could have been actually learning.
Finally, I started to take action. Yeah, I was nervous and really awkward at first, but I learned to get better and smoother with it. Soon enough, I had a serious girlfriend and I retreated into the safety, warmth and comfort of a relationship. It wasn’t exactly what I wanted, but it was comfortable. And despite all of my self-cheering, I didn’t truly believe at that time that I could do better. Sure, I told myself that I was the hottest guy on the planet and I could have any girl I wanted, but truthfully, I didn’t really believe it. I didn’t want to lose what I had and be alone again.
So I ended up staying in a relationship way too long… longer than I should have for that particular one. I eventually broke it off and took some more action, got more results, got a little more confident. But then some dating failure would knock me on my ass and I would either a) fall into a [Click to Continue Reading…]
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