What’s Worked For Me
Most girls at rock shows are what I call ‘coat racks’, because they’re holding their boyfriends jacket or whatever. Most of them aren’t really into the band. They are typically NOT worth gaming because they are babysitting for their baggage.
Then there are some girls that are there for the band; some of these girls have bf’s there, some don’t. The bf’s who are there generally aren’t into the band but they make sure they ‘display ownership’ of their female.
There aren’t usually a lot of single girls at metal shows.
There are different methods for different size venues. I’ll start with the small ones.
SMALL VENUES – Attendance 100-500
It’s usually best to go to rock/indie rock shows because band members girlfriends will bring their friends to the show, and they’ll be groups of girls around the venue. They typically go out to smoke a lot (something I hate) but it’s a chance to talk to them without the interruption of shitty music. (I’ve heard hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of local bands in my time.. I actually like less than 5 of them.)
It’s not like night game at a club either, you work the room differently. Make a first pass through and get to know everyone who’s there, figure out who’s single and who’s not, and who’s there with who. Run enough attraction so they want to continue talking but leave on the high point. I never run kino at this point either. Ever.
Sometimes you can connect with a girl if she’s rocking out to the band by pretending to be into them too. I usually leave those moments alone and connect with them again later when we can talk.
After you’ve got a target picked out, run comfort during the set changes, contact close and kino if you’re hitting it off. Don’t go for a kiss or a make out because it makes things weird.
You can only move girls a few places: Bar, in front of stage, table, outside. Sometimes you can move her somewhere to eat close by, but unless she’s been drinking or you have really, really tight game and she’s really really into, you’re not going to be leaving the club with her and you’re better off setting up a Day 2. Bathroom pulls are close to nil because of the size of the place and her friends are 20 feet away from the stall.
MEDIUM VENUES – Attendance = 1000 – 2000
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