Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 30

Inner Game and Confidence

The secret to good Inner game

The secret to getting amazing good inner game is that there is no secret.  What inner game comes down to for me is forming new beliefs inside your mind.  Beliefs such as having abundance with women and having true confidence in your skill that you can get any woman you want.   This only happens from going out and practicing until you have enough experience that your internal thought patterns change.  There is no short cut.

Creating Long Lasting confidence

Everyone always asks how you do it.  It’s really quite simple but extremely time consuming.  You have to flood your subconscious with new experiences where everything works with women.  Think about it. If you have had bad experiences for five, ten, or twenty years trying to figure women out then you have to un do all of that internal conditioning.   This takes time.   The only way to really get good at something and truly believe you are good at it is to practice and reinforce that you are good.  Once you have enough experiences it will click and you will see the light.  It is easy because it’s simple but it requires great commitment. You won’t get there over night but I promise if you stick with it eventually you will get there.

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I decided I’m going to start posting again here with some consistency.

Where did I go? What was I doing for the past… hmm… almost 7 months that kept me off of regularly posting here.

Well, as some of you may have noticed, I have had some changes of heart about the concepts that are most prevalent in the seduction / PUA / pick-up artist community. Some of you balked at what I had to say, some of you agreed and some of you said, “Quit whining… If you don’t like it, change it!” And I said I would and I will keep that promise.

Even still, it took me a while to reconcile how I was going to do it. And in many ways, thinking about picking up women or seduction was the furthest thing from my mind.

Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been in a relationship. Not an open relationship. Not a relationship for show or for ego-gratification (like someone to praise me or to role-play some fantasy or to take care of me.) I was in the relationship because I cared deeply for the girl and she cared deeply for me.

We had ups, we had downs, we had things we needed to overcome. Maybe I will get into it at some point here, maybe I won’t.

Point is, during this time I started taking on big projects in other areas of my life. Projects that are meaningful to me and pretty massive in terms of what I am aiming to accomplish.

And when I started to deeply commit to pursuing my projects, I discovered Read the rest of this entry »

The decision to change my life was a relatively simple one and it only took half a second at a time.

Choice. Everything in life boils down to a choice. Everything. Perhaps on a level we aren’t even aware of. Sometimes it’s a single choice but more often it’s a series of many choices.

A holding pattern develops when we aren’t conscious of the choices we make on a moment to moment basis. We act in ways that don’t benefit us and we develop ineffective behaviors and strategies, never realizing that somewhere in our process lies a place to decide something different. We continue acting the way we do and we never get anywhere in lives. We stay in a holding pattern.

Because we are thinking so fast, we act on our immediate thoughts and never question what we are doing or why we are doing it. We act and behave according to the choices we unconsciously make, never knowing we are in a holding pattern.

There’s a way to change this though…

We change it by becoming conscious..

of our thoughts…

from moment…

to moment.

Can you see the perfect you? The person who would never do that behavior?

Can you feel what it’s like to be that person? Are they confident and totally in control of their life?

What would that person say to you? What would they tell you to do?

We all know the wonderful things that happen when we accomplish something. Our mind begins to build the image of or new future and our lives begin to change in ways we couldn’t have imagined. We build new neurological pathways inside our brain.

Realizing we have other options gives us choice and enables us to break free from our holding patterns. How often do you question your behavior? How often are you making the right choice? Read the rest of this entry »

I go over how I work the venue, inner game and snl’s.

Listen to it here streaming:   (warning it may crash Firefox)  Best used in chrome or IE

http://www.zshare.net/audio/63693550d9bf6f9c/

Lately I am trying to live by this:

“When things are going there best its time to work harder or your success will slowly fade away.”

It seems over the years that everyone I’ve met has visions and dreams but 50% of them never take action on them.  Then there is  the other 49% that do manage to pull themselves away from the TV and their daily routine but they seem to quit before they reach the finish line.  I say this with a caveat that the  finish line is a loose term becuase once you reach a certain level of success you must put on going effort into it but most people abandon future development.  They settle for good results when, if they pushed just a little father they could achieve greatness.  They shift their believes so they don’t have to follow through on their commitments.  They start to tell themselves stories about why it isn’t for them and go off to invest time into another project which they never finish.

Take this niche that we are in. Self-development geared toward becoming better with women.  Everyone and I mean EVERYONE I’ve been out with or met has achieved some level of results BUT they have all stopped once they are great with out fully pushing themselves to super stardom.  They hit a certain level of success and then they think its over or its handled.  They walk away with out finishing what they started.  Whether it be for something else or becuase they have some internal issues surrounding whats really going on.

I think it takes a special commitment to yourself and to no  one else to reach that next level.  Most people go through different phases in their lives.  They think they want something but then inside they fully never come to terms with it.  They invest years upon years into something and they turn their backs  with out following through.  This is a common thread I see everywhere.

In my opinion it all comes down to internal barriers. Whether it be fear of society excepting you or fear of what your parents might think.   Even worse internal fear of truly actualizing your dreams. Something inside holds you back and then you make up reasons in your mind to shift your attention.  You tell yourselves a story why what you set out to do no longer aligns with your core.

Sure I agree with those who have true value changes but for the most part everyone seems to just get better at telling themselves elaborate stories instead of facing your fear.

I strongly believe that to be truly at piece with yourself you need to conquer your fears.  I don’t think you can ever be fulfilled completely if you don’t.  Turing your back on it only embeds deeper problems that will surface later.   Hell if you set out to do it in the first place it must have been something you wanted.  If you can’t handle the fire you should not have wasted all the time playing in it to begin with. Read the rest of this entry »