One of the most liberating moments in developing skills with women (and my own personal development) was when I discovered the power of unreactivity.
Unreactivity (or non-reactivity) is when you choose to stop reacting to shit that happens.
It’s not that you don’t notice what’s happening. It’s not that you shut off your emotions.
It’s just simply that you choose not to be affected by it.
Take a moment and think about that. Most people don’t step back from their lives and acknowledge they have that choice.
They lead a life of chasing “good feelings and circumstances” and avoiding “bad feelings and circumstances” and all the meanwhile they could just choose to stop depending on circumstances to “give you” the state.
I am here to tell you that you have [Click to Continue Reading…]
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Inner Game
These days I really love the bar. I realize that to some extent I’m preaching to the choir here, but I also know there is a subset of aspiring pickup artists who are like me, in that their relationship with the bar has been somewhat strained. I’m sure you know who you are; you think about going to the bar like you think about going to the dentist: you realize it’s in your best interest to go once in a while, but you know it will leave a bad taste in your mouth.
I blame it on my youth. In high school, like many of you I was not one of the cool kids. I never really got picked on, (probably because I practiced Karate obsessively and my demeanor was what could generously be referred to as “standoffish,”) but I wasn’t interested in sports; I was interested in politics and Nietzsche and Jimi Hendrix and whatever nihilistic pseudo-intellectual bummer of an angstfest I could get my mind on. Sure, I was jealous and resented the cool kids for getting all the hottest girls, but I had no interest in participating in what I saw as their shallow and inane lifestyle and value system (not that I would have known how to be “cool” if I had wanted to be). Life was Serious Business! Getting laid would have been a waste of time if it meant listening to pop music and playing beer-pong.
In college I developed a healthier attitude towards life, but my prejudices towards [Click to Continue Reading…]
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