Posts Tagged “Goals”

I’ve been running back to the fundamental points lately in my mind. This is because we had so much success in the early months and then I hit a giant plateau. I believe many people are stuck in different forms of plateaus.

Then I tried a different approach, starting at the beginning again and I think I went backwards in my development. Sometimes you have to to figure out what works and what doesn’t. A trick that my mind plays on itself is “once you have something handled you don’t have to do it anymore”, which is completely not true.

I compare this to working out at a gym. Once you can curl 50 pounds, it’s not OK to stop because if you stopped doing it and then try to pick up 50 pounds a month later without working out in that time you will not be able to.

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What we focus on will define all of our interactions. As I have become better and better with every week of practice, I find it is harder to detach myself from an outcome. The irony in all of this is that going out and doing this in itself is a paradox. You have to each have faith in yourself, but at the same time not put demands on yourself. But even still you have to take action. If you don’t expect anything from yourself, then you open the door to trying new things. This is a current sticking point I am working through.

For me it’s easier to open sets and test out new things if I don’t hold in my head that I am good at anything, even if sometimes I’m very good. This is a mental trick that I do to not experience approach anxiety, but not necessarily the end solution. I really need to get back and think about the long process and end game, not just worry about the here and now.

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There is a lot of time in the day, but at the same time so little. Let’s talk getting productive. This in itself is the core of self-help. Keeping motivation levels up to inspire us to be . The main problem as I see it, everyone looks for the easy way out, the next pill, but in reality everything isn’t as hard as you make it out to be. It just takes way longer then you might think.

As a person I find I get into ruts. Say working or the lack there of. Doing less work breeds doing less work. Your mind and body finds ways to be lazy when it’s in an unproductive stage. On the flip side when you are producing and working it becomes easier to continue on then to stop.

Bing! Right there: Momentum. This is a hugely under talked about thing in the self-help community. First, we need dreams and things to aspire to. Next we need motivation and ways to keep our motivation. Things that constantly, remind us of what we want and how to get there. Next the momentum. This is a key that I don’t think Edge … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Success can be a blessing and a curse. This summer has been crazy and I have definitely had some great and wild experiences, but the journey has just begun.

During August, I had let myself get comfortable because I was thinking, “This is way better than where I was at 4 months ago.” And it’s true… but this line of thinking is destructive…

I’m setting the criterion that if I’ve made significant improvement, it’s OK to stop doing all the good habits since I’ve had a “WIN”. It’s true, I’ve had a win, but I’m going for the big win… the win at a total lifestyle revolution.

And you might be reading thinking, “Lighten up… Don’t be so hard on yourself.” Just to clarify - this isn’t about me beating myself up. I think all of us should celebrate and be grateful every time we have a win in life. What I’m saying is that if you’re … [Click Here to Read Post] »

This brings us back to over arching goals and step by step goals. All very important to keep motivation.

Lets look at my current pickup goals.

Over arching goals:

Open sets. Done check got there and lost my motivation.

Thus I created a new goal to get the bartenders. Working on it and at the same time creating myself an over arching goal of becoming famous. Not in a commercial sense but becoming famous to everyone I meet and backing it up. Actually doing it. This will instill a super solid sense of entitlement and inner game. See my entourage … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Recently through out many of my interactions I feel confident in opening and transitioning most of the time then I go into vibing. I can vibe with a single girl or a group of girls and we both can keep the conversation going for over an hour even in a high energy loud venue. A month ago I couldn’t do this at all but now it goes.

The main sticking point I find in this and I’ve been talking with Edge a lot about it is the fact that it feels like I am pulling at strings trying to find common ground. Not forcing it in anyway but lets just say trying to really connect with some one on stuff.

I’ve noticed I just vibe off the club and what people do for fun and what they do for work. This is a fun social vibe but it doesn’t have a huge draw. Its just fun but not oh my god you are the coolest person fun.

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After watching the secret, seeing a clip from Tim’s RSD Flawless Natural and talking to Edge about visualization and goals I’ve decided to create a vision board in the coming weeks. This will give me something to look at and give me a strong kick to my motivation every day and when ever I look at it.

I will include things like pictures of the girls I want as well as where I see myself. This really strikes me as important. The other day I realized something. When I was 18 I always drove past this bar down town and saw the hottest girls going into it. I thought to myself … [Click Here to Read Post] »

After my conversation with Legend this weekend (on the upcoming 07.26.08 audio file), I am thinking about what motivates us. My motivation has been waning in other areas of my life, mainly meditation and exercise/dieting – I want to take my motivation back.

What I realized is that the visions and conditions that I had set to motivate my actions no longer applied. Like wind coming out of my sails, I simply stopped doing the good things I was doing and even enjoyed doing after the vision I had created had come to pass.

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I have come to the conclusion that I really don’t need much material. Frankly I think it inhibits me because sometimes I feel like I don’t have the perfect line, which is complete crap. What I think it comes down to is just putting yourself on the line. Going after what you want and being willing to get blown out. I had a talk with Edge after going out last night and he mentioned a mantra that one of his military friends goes by.

If you don’t get rejected at least 25 times, then it hasn’t been a good night.

This is my goal for the next coming nights. Really trying to get rid of caring about anything and embracing rejection. Honestly you feel way better … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Being Successful is all about implementing a habit and sticking to it. I believe the saying is, “Everyone over-estimates how easy something is and under-estimates how long it will take.”

My goal is simple: become an insanely good PUA (Pick Up Artist)

Implementation: Going out 2 times a week no matter what. Been doing this for almost 2 months seen ups and downs and I am definitely getting way better each day. I would like to step up my learning curve and start going out and doing more everyday. Or at least have a girl to hang out with everyday, which is do able with my internet game, but I feel like I am just wasting time on the computer when I do it.

My number one goal for the summer is completely letting go of my fear of rejection and just totally not giving a fuck.

Implementation: Not really sure. I guess the more … [Click Here to Read Post] »

This week, I would like to develop in the following areas:

Be more pushy - Find my “inner-entitlement” and go for the number close, even if the energy in the interaction has tapered off. Might be a flaky number, but it’s good practice and it will push my edge.

Merging sets - Once a set has hooked, say, “Hey, let’s go meet some people,” and open an advacent set.

Write down more stories from my life - as a kid, things I’ve seen during different jobs, things I’ve seen at parties, etc. Look for the natural DHVs in my life.

Find earrings that I like

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