For gross generalizations purposes I think people fall into 3 different categories and I am going to rant about it.

Different types:

1.  Anything is possible and I am going to keep pursuing what ever I want until I get it.  If it doesn’t work and I get knocked down, face rejection, I stand up brush off my shoulders and carry on. Over and over again, no matter what!!

2.  Then there are the people who have big dreams and goals but when they face rejection or difficulty, they crumble and shrink back.  They are always waiting for the perfect time and plan to take action again so they don’t have to suffer failure.  Not taking that class or following through on the work that it really takes to succeed.  Instead they complain that they don’t get it but never want to put the time and work in to achieve their goals.

3.  Then there is the type of person who thinks that nothing can work and basically the world is out to get them.  The ones that think life sucks and there is not point because “bad shit happens to good people.” The ones that don’t bother to try but complain about their shitty life all the time.

Honestly I am fed up and I am talking the gloves off.   I am not going to sugar coat my opinions and placate to anyone so if you don’t like my twisted version of reality don’t read my stuff.

For me success and achieving your goals all comes down to having a positive out look and being willing to try over and over again in the face of rejection.

Fuck rejection, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

Fuck failure, IF SOMETHING DOESN’T WORK TRY SOMETHING ELSE.

Fuck the fact that it takes a lot of work, DO OR DON’T BUT STOP WASTING YOUR AND MY TIME IF YOU DON’T WANT TO DO WHAT IT TAKES.

How do you expect to get anywhere in life if you don’t try and fail and try again.   Try again a thousand times or a million times.  What ever it takes,  that is my mentality.

Winston Churchill failed sixth grade. He was subsequently defeated in every election for public office until he became Prime Minister at the age of 62. He later wrote, “Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small, large or petty – never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never, Never, Never, Never give up.” (his capitals, mind you)

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Edge and I have been debating this issue a  lot lately.   We have gotten a lot of questions emailed to us about how we became successful and how to duplicate it.

The biggest thing being how to get good fast. I’ve found that a lot of people are sometimes confused when it comes to the best way to study game.   You might wonder what steps to take next or maybe you try out some stuff but it really does not seem applicable to your life.   A lot of the advice out there I personally find to be flashy and isn’t real and practical. A weekend seminar or boot camp may give you good results that weekend but there is no lasting change.  No one bothers to have any follow through.  Some of the teachings out there want you to adapt your personality into some one elses’  which isn’t practical nor did I ever want to change myself into someone else.  I’ve always wanted to be me just with success.

I struggled with these issues for a long time when I started off and I want to talk about what held me back and how I got to the next level and how you can too.

To become successful I think we need to look at whats out there and the idea’s behind it:

Basically take a look at what works and what doesn’t. I think the community has a lot of good information so don’t get me wrong but most of it is geared toward changing yourself too much and pretending to be someone else.    It has been about becoming a flashy PUA guy.   I don’t think anyone should have to become a Pick-Up Artist to have success with women.    Sure I think you need to learn how to approach woman and be a good conversationalist but not at the expense of your own personality. The common knowledge dictates that you have to become this flashy over the top kinda club guy if you want to have any success with women.

Frankly this is just not true. The community has the mentality that if you want to succeed you need to adapt your personality into something else.  Also that you need to become a rock star flashy PUA which is not true.    If you are a flashy guy go for it but if your a funny guy you should stick to being funny.    If your a connection guy you should stick to building an amazing connection.   All of the stuff out there that pitches massive change to become a super hero guy of pick-up is just absurd.  The last thing I really wanted when I started off was to be a “PUA.”  I just wanted to be successful with women.

I wanted real amazing results for me BUT I was just an average real guy.

Now also looking at how this stuff is taught is an entirely different animal in it self.   Sure getting out and doing it is great but how can a 3 day boot camp really cram in all the knowledge of years of experience into your head.  It definitely can’t.   The current teachings offerings always miss the follow through and action plan.  Sure you learn what to do that night but what about the week after?  The month after?   I personally think there is a gaping hole in it.  If you want true results it has to be something on going.  Look at any academic institution.  To get a degree it takes a few years or at least a few month for a class.

Also everyone is currently teaching a one size fits all approach.  Why do we have coaches if they can’t adapt anything?  No one is teaching the principles of what works they only teach the tactics. It seems to be a bunch of people trying to force one personality type onto another.  It just doesn’t work in any real, lasting and satisfactory way.  To learn this stuff it has to be real and personal to your life.  It has to be your game not my game or any guru’s game.  It has to come from you and align with your values and identity so you don’t have to completely change yourself into someone else.

I think the two pitfalls that are out there with everything that’s being taught is there is no on-going plan and it’s not about the underlying unifying theories.   If you get behind the game and break it down to the core mechanics behind what works then it can be personalized.

We here at Pick-Up Evolution  want to help change how we all can master success with women.

These problems really held me back in the beginning.   I was always looking for something that made sense to me because I didn’t want to become a flashy over the top kinda of guy.  I wanted something that was real and could work without changing myself to the nth degree.  You know real guys doing real pick-up. That’s really been my motto for everything I write about and teach.   It should be REAL and practical yet still with the advances in dating science over the last few years it should provide  INSANE results.  I think the evolution of pick-up will be learning the concepts behind what works and how to translate them directly into your life in an on going basis.   Personally I think everyone over complicates things and talks about how it can be done over night BUT in reality I think its really simple yet it takes on going training to get it done.

You know my personal opinion that to truly get ‘game’ you need something on going and personalized.   It wasn’t until Edge and I scrapped everything we thought we knew about success with women and went about really revamping our game from the ground up did we truly have success for ourselves.  Not success using someone else’s lines or personality BUT with our own method of success.  We crammed all our old school knowledge into a free book.  If you don’t have it get on the newsletter and get it.

We sat down and wrote out a bunch of goals which turned into a curriculum with the underlying theme of “gaming with out game.”   The curriculum uncovers and uses the underlying “unifying principles of game” to create something new, simple and relatable.    Only then did we start to have success.   At first it was slow but then it started to become amazing.  We had it all.  You can read more about our success journey here.

Unfortunately at the time we didn’t have anyone to coach us but with a lot of hard work we accomplished our goals one by one.  Some of them took days others took months but in the end we formulated a massive new way gaming and implementation until we consistently got real amazing results.

Now we want to share our insights with You.  I want to know what you guys think is the best way to learn theory, tactics, strategy, techniques, methods, and everything.

So here is a quick poll on Survey Monkey

The decision to change my life was a relatively simple one and it only took half a second at a time.

Choice. Everything in life boils down to a choice. Everything. Perhaps on a level we aren’t even aware of. Sometimes it’s a single choice but more often it’s a series of many choices.

A holding pattern develops when we aren’t conscious of the choices we make on a moment to moment basis. We act in ways that don’t benefit us and we develop ineffective behaviors and strategies, never realizing that somewhere in our process lies a place to decide something different. We continue acting the way we do and we never get anywhere in lives. We stay in a holding pattern.

Because we are thinking so fast, we act on our immediate thoughts and never question what we are doing or why we are doing it. We act and behave according to the choices we unconsciously make, never knowing we are in a holding pattern.

There’s a way to change this though…

We change it by becoming conscious..

of our thoughts…

from moment…

to moment.

Can you see the perfect you? The person who would never do that behavior?

Can you feel what it’s like to be that person? Are they confident and totally in control of their life?

What would that person say to you? What would they tell you to do?

We all know the wonderful things that happen when we accomplish something. Our mind begins to build the image of or new future and our lives begin to change in ways we couldn’t have imagined. We build new neurological pathways inside our brain.

Realizing we have other options gives us choice and enables us to break free from our holding patterns. How often do you question your behavior? How often are you making the right choice? Read the rest of this entry »

And that’s a great thing.

This is going to seem like a contradictory post from my first one last week but it’s more of a compliment. To prove such I’ll start by using another Tyler Durden quote.

“I say never be complete, I say stop being perfect, I say let’s evolve, let the chips fall where they may.”

While you may have goals and specific things that you may want to accomplish when it comes to pickup and your overall personal development, it’s important to understand that this thing called “life” will happen and in an instant, change the game on you. The key to your success journey is to just go with it.

When I finished school and went back to Boston, I had absolutely NO clue what was going to happen. I had visions of living with a few of my best friends, getting a kick ass job in design and being able to hang out with my old high school friends again, since I didn’t get to hang with them for nearly 5 years.

None of those things happened.

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Everyone has certain things that motivate them.  We all know that motivation comes in cycles or waves.  Sometimes you feel like doing a lot and other times you don’t really feel doing anything. We get in moods, grooves, and sometimes ruts.

Just recently I have been taking a hard look at what I do mentally that either motivates me to take action or keeps me complacent.   Lately its been winter and that really slows me down.  I’ve been inside more and going out less.  Then I took a nice vacation in Miami so I’ve really been off the ball.

Now as spring approaches I feel a new breath.

Time to amp it up.  Get back to my roots and really push it to the next level.

Taking a hard look at how my brain operates.. I am usually in one of three modes.

Mode one:

I’ll do it later.  There is no point to doing it now.  Fake excuses and complacency.  This happens from time to time and a lot when I am not taking action.

Mode two:

Anger and motivation mode.  I find that personally I get frustrated Read the rest of this entry »

I want to start off by thanking Legend and Edge for allowing me to post here regularly. I love what these guys are doing and a lot of what they talk about is actually what I talk about all day, every day to my clients and people around me. I hope that I can help build the momentum as we are all here to learn about how to improve our lives day by day to be the best we are capable of.

Earlier today, I came across an article about Tyler Durden (played by Brad Pitt) and his amazing quotes from Fight Club. If you haven’t seen it, you need to find a way to see it because this is a movie that will get you motivated. One of his memorable quotes is one that I want to talk about today.

“This is your life, and it’s ending one minute at a time.”

That’s right, guys. After you read this, will have 5-10 minutes less to live your life. The significance with this quote is that when we go out and are so worried about being the perfect worker or the perfect friend or the perfect guy for women, we forget one thing.

No one can be perfect. No one.

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