Legend and I were talking recently about this whole game.  Call it what you want:  dating skills, learning how to be great in a relationship, learning game, being a pick-up artist, etc.

I discovered the materials of the seduction community/pick-up arts 10 years ago and I have been a student ever since.  Thing is, how I have perceived this area of my life and how I have pursued it has changed dramatically over the years.  This is all stuff I have talked about in prior posts, so I am not going to repeat myself.

What I want to talk about here is the idea of “gaming without game“.  What do I mean by that?

Well, the seduction community’s mentality has generally been that solid “game” is to learn some psychological tricks/manipulations and then to deliver them through conversation in one way or another.

Now, in the past few years the concept of “the natural” has been introduced, but nobody has really been able to pin down the concept of being a natural other than to convey it through vague philosophies and by painting tantalizing pictures of having effortless, seamless “game” by just having a good vibe.  I want to make clear that that is not what I am talking about here.

So what am I talking about when I say gaming without game?

I will Read the rest of this entry »

I have been thinking lately about how I can make this blog better. I believe that our blog has the most content out of all the dating advice / dating tips / pick-up artist / seduction websites out there. (Like those keywords?)

There are some other commercial blogs with more “content”, but I put content in quotes because the vast majority of it is just sales letters masked as content.

I have no problem with guys making a business in helping men improve their love life. I do have qualms with a guy (or a group of guys) starting a BUSINESS in pick-up because they want to have a business, not because Read the rest of this entry »

Thinking back on my social interactions, I had a history of being stingy even as a kid. I didn’t like sharing, I wasn’t a big fan of being generous and I was definitely one to fight for anything that I viewed as scarce.

As a teenager, I saw this in myself and felt guilty about it. At the same time, I looked at women and money as scarce, so I definitely did not want to consider being generous. Instead, I just felt guilty about taking anything from anyone and formed an intent to be completely independent and self-sufficient.

Independence and self-sufficiency are great characteristics. However, when it comes to improving skills with women or socially in generally, you have to be willing to give and take.

What stands in the way of people giving freely?

I think there were a few major internal forces Read the rest of this entry »

Here and there, people will talk about giving and taking value in social settings and interactions

. In my last post, I wrote about how I’ve begun throwing house parties with my roommates as a way to meet women and give value to all of my guests. It works phenomenally.

But let’s step back and take a look at giving value as a concept. Giving value Africa: The Serengeti dvdrip is basically the mere fact that if someone aligns with you in any sense, they will be closer to getting something they want than if they did not talk to you.

As a random example: by virtue of knowing someone like Hugh Hefner personally, you become a person who gives value to people when they align with you. The other people who align with you would be thinking on some level, “If he knows Hugh Hefner, then that means that I someday might get a trip to the Playboy mansion!”

Or if someone is really funny and crazy, people will want to align with them cause they think, “This person is so funny and crazy, I’ll be entertained and feel good when they’re around.”

Now granted, I don’t like to break human relationships down to something so cold and sterile. There’s much more Read the rest of this entry »