Legend and I have been winging each other for years. We’ve had massive success, created amazing memories and have had tons of fun, but every step of the way we’ve asked ourselves: How can we make this even better?
Better. Faster. More effective. And more fun…
One thing we just discovered this weekend is how to turn a “bad night” into a “good night” and help each other as wings.
Now, before I talk about what we’ve started doing, let me give you some background and context into what I’m talking about.
For years, Legend and I have talked about the good night/bad night phenomenon in our time in field, where one night of the weekend we’ll be on fire and the other night will be virtually a dud.
We would talk about it, analyze and come up with reasons and realizations as to why the night was a dud (we didn’t get any momentum, we weren’t in state, etc.), but regardless of what the reasons were, we had no way of getting into a good state that night if it started down the path of being a dud.
So just last night, Legend and I were [Click to Continue Reading…]
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Chasing State:
While I think it’s great to be in state while your out, being in state is probably the least important thing in pickup because you absolutely don’t need it to accomplish anything. State is nothing more than a tool for you to use. Furthermore, by worrying about being in state or waiting for it to happen, you’re shooting yourself in the foot instead of just getting on with having fun. Waiting to be in state is counterproductive and will actually throw you into a vicious cycle of negative feelings. Forget about “trying” to be in state. Go out and have fun.
2 Kinds of State: Validation Based State and Pure State Along with chasing state you want to avoid validation based state. There are so many guys out there who use attention from girls as fuel for “being in state”. When they get IOI’s from girls they emotionally react to them, taking their feelings of being happy and channeling that into a state they normally aren’t in. Doing this on a consistent basis is actually using validation in a way that hurts them in the long run and will cause them to be state dependent and “addicted” to “state. In other words, they are taking energy from an external source and using it to motivate them. Breaking free from being addicted to Validation Based State is not easy because the person has to completely retrain themselves.
On the other end of the scale, Pure State is when you’re happy being [Click to Continue Reading…]
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