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“Yuck,” I thought to myself, sitting outside a Starbucks cafe on flashy Lincoln Road, Miami Beach, FL.  I was trying to figure out the thought that was so revolting to me.

If men thought peacocking was as important as oxygen, this is what the world would look like.

In the same way a child covers his eyes in hopes that whatever frightens him would disappear, I was watching hordes of people clinging to something to block their view of what scares them: life.

Wearing sunglasses to the club wasn’t a gimmick on South Beach – it was … well… the “normal” thing to do.

Then, the thought I had been grasping for suddenly snapped into view, like a lens coming into focus.

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I think something great is happening here.

But before I say what it is and why, I want to make something clear: Learning to improve your dating skills with women can be a brutal process.

Let me tell you a story…

I was walking down the street last night, filled with anger, bitterness and hopelessness. I was walking with my Legend and Amp, spitting absolute venom about dating, women and the game in general.

“It’s all so unfair. I work so hard to be a good person in the world. With integrity. With loyalty. With honesty and honor.

And yet I can walk up to a girl in a bar, say something to open a dialogue with the purest of intentions and somehow in this world it’s OK for her to look at me like a piece of garbage and coldly dismiss me like I’m some sort of social parasite.

To be honest, I need to conjure every ounce of strength I have to not flip out at these implicit social insults. Who is she to judge me?”

And on and on I went, pissing and moaning about how much I hate the “game” and how annoying this all can be.

Having shattered their until-moments-ago-euphoric buzz, and Legend look at me, desperately hoping to talk me off the ledge. “Edge, you know it’s a game. Yeah, it’s bullshit at times, but it’s not like you don’t know what you’re doing. You’ve dated 7 girls at the same time! You’ve had threesomes and dated every type of girl on the checklist…”

“Yeah,” I said, “but that doesn’t mean it feels like success to me…”

OK, so what’s my point in sharing this story.

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