Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 18: Framing and Frames

What are frames

Definition:

Framing is the basis to every aspect of your game.  Framing is basically having the right attitude or perspective while interacting with women, which is very important. It is how you view the interaction and it is the underlying context to the interaction.  One of our strategies is going to be intentionally choosing the most strategic viewpoint and attitude to use at different stages of the interaction.

In any communication, there are all communications, facial expressions and body language that is neutral.  Sometimes these things do have a motive or intention and that motive or intention might be clear or ambiguous.  Our minds have an urge to give meaning to everything.  Frames are powerful because they are the lens you look through to determine the meaning of an these elements of an interaction.  Frames tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies.

For example, someone who believes he is well-liked may interpret a rude comment toward him as if it were a joke and laugh about it.  His response is likeable and his belief that he is well liked becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – he looks through the belief that people like him and so he responds in a likeable way.

Another person who believes he is disliked by everyone may interpret that same rude comment as a cutting personal attack and fly into a fit of rage.  His response repels people and it too completes the self-fulfilling prophecy.

Same rude comment, two different interpretations because Read the rest of this entry »

One thing I’ve been thinking about lately as I revamp my game from the ground up is the roles that we play and how they affect our game. The frames that we set for ourselves without realizing it can have a huge effect on everything.

It’s important to think about what you’re doing and how are you doing it because everything can drastically affect the outcome and the type of girls that you are having success with.  If you’re playing the part of a certain type of guy, you’re only going to get a certain type of girl that meshes with that persona.

Take a look at the underlying meanings of your approach to game so that you can plan your course of action accordingly.  You want to have a style of dress and style of conversation that fits the type of person you want to portray.  You also have to think about the kind of girl that you want because only certain types of girls are going to go for certain types of guys.

Certain types of girls will have one night stands with certain types of guys and those same girls might want a relationship with other types of guys.  Think about the underlying actions and how you are approaching your interactions.  I believe your success will skyrocket when everything fits together in a congruent way.

The Roles

The creepy guy

This guy stands Read the rest of this entry »

Recently we’ve been get all sorts of great letters from the readers of the site. Sometimes someone will ask a great question and I’ll think to myself, “You know what?  I should just write a post about it since I’m sure a whole bunch of people have the same question.”

I am all for discussion and I am excited to see the rise in participation on this blog.  I think we’re starting to create a community here – one where guys help out other guys and freely discuss these topics, without all the marketing garbage and product hawking…  I think it’s refreshing.

Here are some recent letters on different topics that I think you’ll all enjoy: Read the rest of this entry »

One of my favorite concepts in self-improvement and seduction is the concept of frames. I think that frames and beliefs are closely intertwined, so I decided to post about them together.

When I think of the concept of frames and beliefs, I think of Richard Bandler (co-founder of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), Ross Jeffries (founder of Speed Seduction) and Swinggcat (writer of Real World Seduction). These are the guys that I feel taught me the most about frames and they deserve credit for their work.

What I want to talk about today is a recent thought I had about frames and beliefs.

See, it’s not uncommon for people talk about self-fulfilling prophecies. I think everyone would agree that when someone has shitty beliefs and expects the worst, they are most likely to get exactly what they expect.

But I don’t think people typically think about self-fulfilling prophecies in the positive sense. But why not? If we Read the rest of this entry »