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Facing your fears

motivation

I’ve been working on inner confidence extensively lately and its brought up some major issues.  Mostly around internal mentalities on how I think society conditions us to think about  success. Always affirming that one day we will be successful rock stars with out any work.

I’ve found in business and especially in self-improvement most people want others to take responsibility for their situation or their own personal self-improvement.  Even I see myself doing it.  Especially in the past putting my own in-action and blame on other people.  Be it for motivation or having other people prod me to take action.  I think especially in the community everyone is looking for a quick fix or some one to solve their problems.

People want some one else to hold them accountable, force them to go out, force them to talk to strangers, or get them going on a new project.

Coach them through every step of the way. I see this over and over again.  Only now do I see that I do it to an extent to.  The first step to solving this I think is to realize its going on and to take full responsibility for yourself.

Sure its nice to have a wing man to force you into sets.

Sure its nice to have a buddy calling you up and dragging you out.

Sure its nice to have a specified path to follow to get where you want.

BUT

When it comes down to is actually doing it and doing it for yourself.  You can be shown the way but it comes down to taking your own steps.  BY YOUR SELF. Your guru can show you the door and point you in the right direction but what it comes down to is ONLY you can do it.   This is your life!  Your wing man won’t always be their for you.  This paragraph won’t always be in front of you to motivate you.

That is why I think its extremely important to start [Click to Continue Reading…]

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Embracing rejection is a key concept I haven’t fully wrapped my head around, but I want to. I find myself being able to open almost anything, except the girls I really really want. If it’s an easy set and there won’t be a blow out I will go for it. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve had no problem doing mixed sets and doing frankly whatever I want except the ones that I really am super attracted to. I think this stems from not having an abundance mindset because every night I go out it seems like there is only one girl all night that I really really want.

The problem with this is that I don’t practice going after the one I want because I’m afraid that it won’t work, but in reality it will never work if I don’t try. This is clearly only an internal struggle with myself that I must overcome and master. I am in it to get the best. Bar none.

No one can do this for me, just like I cannot do it for any of you [Click to Continue Reading…]

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