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different kinds of state

emotional stateChasing State:

While I think it’s great to be in state while your out, being in state is probably the least important thing in pickup because you absolutely don’t need it to accomplish anything. State is nothing more than a tool for you to use. Furthermore, by worrying about being in state or waiting for it to happen, you’re shooting yourself in the foot instead of just getting on with having fun. Waiting to be in state is counterproductive and will actually throw you into a vicious cycle of negative feelings. Forget about “trying” to be in state. Go out and have fun.

2 Kinds of State: Validation Based State and Pure State Along with chasing state you want to avoid validation based state. There are so many guys out there who use attention from girls as fuel for “being in state”. When they get IOI’s from girls they emotionally react to them, taking their feelings of being happy and channeling that into a state they normally aren’t in. Doing this on a consistent basis is actually using validation in a way that hurts them in the long run and will cause them to be state dependent and “addicted” to “state. In other words, they are taking energy from an external source and using it to motivate them. Breaking free from being addicted to Validation Based State is not easy because the person has to completely retrain themselves.

On the other end of the scale, Pure State is when you’re happy being [Click to Continue Reading…]

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stateTheory for Getting Into State: From Introvert to Extrovert

There are a few concepts that I want to discuss that I haven’t heard talked about before. Hopefully this is original and not entirely heard before, though some of it will be.

2 Kinds of State: Introvert and Extrovert When people are alone they are in Introvert Mode, they are thinking in their heads and in their own universe. When people are with another person or other people, most often they are in Extrovert Mode and are sharing ideas or communicating feelings. We are naturally in some stage of either Introvert or Extrovert at any given time, and we naturally shift from one mode to the other without thinking about it or making any kind of effort. But there are some people out there who have a hard time talking to other people, or, going from Introvert Mode to Extrovert Mode. I’m going to discuss 2 different views. First will be about ourselves and second will be about other people. Let’s begin.

You – From Introvert to Extrovert Most of us are alone before we go out, so what we need to do is go from introvert to extrovert [Click to Continue Reading…]

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