I’ve been working on inner confidence extensively lately and its brought up some major issues.  Mostly around internal mentalities on how I think society conditions us to think about  success. Always affirming that one day we will be successful rock stars with out any work.

I’ve found in business and especially in self-improvement most people want others to take responsibility for their situation or their own personal self-improvement.  Even I see myself doing it.  Especially in the past putting my own in-action and blame on other people.  Be it for motivation or having other people prod me to take action.  I think especially in the community everyone is looking for a quick fix or some one to solve their problems.

People want some one else to hold them accountable, force them to go out, force them to talk to strangers, or get them going on a new project.

Coach them through every step of the way. I see this over and over again.  Only now do I see that I do it to an extent to.  The first step to solving this I think is to realize its going on and to take full responsibility for yourself.

Sure its nice to have a wing man to force you into sets.

Sure its nice to have a buddy calling you up and dragging you out.

Sure its nice to have a specified path to follow to get where you want.

BUT

When it comes down to is actually doing it and doing it for yourself.  You can be shown the way but it comes down to taking your own steps.  BY YOUR SELF. Your guru can show you the door and point you in the right direction but what it comes down to is ONLY you can do it.   This is your life!  Your wing man won’t always be their for you.  This paragraph won’t always be in front of you to motivate you.

That is why I think its extremely important to start Read the rest of this entry »

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide by Pick-Up Evolution Part 3: How to get Good Part B

This is all about Creating Confidence and Becoming Competent

The number one thing that women want is a confident man. This leads us to the question of how do we become confident with women. It is not rocket science, but it will take time.

Being confident is all about being comfortable in any situation and knowing what to do. This really comes down to practicing enough so that you’ve experienced many things and you automatically do the right thing.

Edge:

I think there are two elements to cultivate here.

One is worldliness – exposing yourself to as many different things, situations, circumstances, places and types of people as you can.

Open-mindedness is definitely a plus Read the rest of this entry »

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 3: Foundational Beliefs Part A

Legend:

Myths

There are many myths in society and in the pickup community. One of the greatest hurdles I have found is the idea that we can come up with perfect lines and avoid rejection. If you got into the community through Mystery and the VH1 show “The Pickup Artist”, whether it is season one or two or by reading “The Game” by Neil Strauss, then you may have developed some bad habits without realizing it.

The community thinking from a few years ago was that the pick-up artist (PUA) can come up with this elaborate routine stack or through patterns that would convey their personality in a way that they would never get rejected. Also that you could have any woman you wanted. The more I study and the more I practice, the more I realize this is Read the rest of this entry »