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One of the most liberating moments in developing skills with women (and my own personal development) was when I discovered the power of unreactivity.

Unreactivity (or non-reactivity) is when you choose to stop reacting to shit that happens.

It’s not that you don’t notice what’s happening.  It’s not that you shut off your emotions.

It’s just simply that you choose not to be affected by it.

Take a moment and think about that.  Most people don’t step back from their lives and acknowledge they have that choice.

They lead a life of chasing “good feelings and circumstances” and avoiding “bad feelings and circumstances” and all the meanwhile they could just choose to stop depending on circumstances to “give you” the state.

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Part of it was written when I was in school and still being affected. The other parts of it were written in the last week or two (in italics). Notice how my perception on this particular development has changed between then and now.

~S

P.S. For those of you wondering why I call it a “he-man” bitch shield.. It’s a joke between my schoolmate Emo Boy and I. We added gender specific terms to some words to make them funny when we use them in conversation. “Manicure” became he-manicure, we specified “man-colors” when talking about nail polish, “male mannequin” became the he-mannequin.

The He-Man Bitch Shield & The Fragility of the Male Ego

We’re all familiar with the bitch shield concept, right? If not, real quick review… Mystery is quoted as saying a girl gets hit on 7500 times between the ages of 18 and 24, let alone for the rest of her life. Because she cannot possibly attend to every male that wants her, she needs to protect herself and her time from all of these needy guys. She builds a shield to ward off as many of these approaches, as quickly as she can.

I was pretty shocked when I figured out that I’ve developed a full blown he-man bitch shield. Could I really have developed a shield to ward off females? Is that even what it’s about?

I’m a high value guy at school and as such, girls are constantly testing my frame. This happens, on average, about 25 times a day. Multiply that by 5 days a week, 4 weeks a month and we’re talking 500 digs, shit tests and bad behavior from girls. Minimum. And I’ve been there for 6 months. 3000 shit tests. [7 months in all, 3500 experiences at least. That's a lot in such a little time. A LOT.]

Back to the man shield. I’ve developed a lower tolerance for and opinion of, bullshit. I don’t have time for it, [You're the jerk for acting this way, not me.", "I am unaffected by it. It doesn't matter." and finally to "This girl likes me enough to tease me."]. In certain situations, even when I’ve been completely respectful of others whilst refusing to put up with their shit, I have still come out the asshole. [I've learned to be okay with this. It wasn't like that at first, until I figured out what was going on.]

As a result I have retreated, I have become less social. Being less social has started to affect my day to day state. I am miserable at school. I can’t wait to graduate and get away from these people. I feel that most of these people are lower value than me and I legitimately do not want them in my life. There are a few people I will still hang with at school, however these people have high value as well.

[Wow… I am usually much happier than those thoughts. What the hell happened to me?]

[I developed a defense mechanism, a "reason", designed to protect my ego. My "reason" was I wanted to focus more on bringing my grades up. I brought it up from a 95 to a 96, I was miserable and the whole effort seemed wasted when I got my final grade.]

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Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 30: Inner Game

by Legend Technique

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 30 Inner Game and Confidence The secret to good Inner game The secret to getting amazing good inner game is that there is no secret.  What inner game comes down to for me is forming new beliefs inside your mind.  Beliefs […]

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Legend – Taking Responsibility

by Legend Inner Game

I’ve been working on inner confidence extensively lately and its brought up some major issues.  Mostly around internal mentalities on how I think society conditions us to think about  success. Always affirming that one day we will be successful rock stars with out any work. I’ve found in business and especially in self-improvement most people […]

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Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 3: Creating Confidence Part B

by Legend Technique

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide by Pick-Up Evolution Part 3: How to get Good Part B This is all about Creating Confidence and Becoming Competent The number one thing that women want is a confident man. This leads us to the question of how do we become confident with women. It […]

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Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 3: Beliefs, Mindset, Female Psychology, and Creating Confidence Part A

by Legend Technique

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide by Pick-Up Evolution Part 3: Foundational Beliefs Part A Legend: Myths There are many myths in society and in the pickup community. One of the greatest hurdles I have found is the idea that we can come up with perfect lines and avoid rejection. If you […]

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