Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 25

Rapport

The key to creating a powerful connection is really making the other person feel it.  Not just talking about something but to really feel a powerful feeling inside of them. This feeling of connection is a surefire way to create a powerful connection. The old Speed Seduction rule of going first is extremely important here when connecting with girls.  If you want to have someone feel a powerful connection with you then you need to connect and get excited about something for yourself before they can get excited.

As I went out more and more, I noticed that the girls that I would connect with the best where the ones where we ended up talking about things that were really important to me. Things like friends, family, and my work.  When it came down to it I really was talking about my Passions in life.  If you start talking about things that really get you amped up and excited then whoever you are talking to is going to get amped up and excited.  Feelings are contagious.  If you can create amazing powerful good feelings in yourself then the girl that you are talking to will catch those feelings and start feeling them.  They will then associate the feelings they are getting with you.

Passions

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Rapport gives us the potential for creating long lasting, synergistic relationships, but can also be misused. Rapport is a tool much in the same way that a hammer is. Just as a scalpel can be used to heal or to hurt, utilize it to heal. You must use rapport to heal or it will come around and bite you in the ass and you will not succeed in your goals. The best thing you can do is to use rapport in an ethical way to benefit all involved.

Use these techniques to create win-win, synergistic relationships.

BREAKING DOWN COMMUNICATION

55% of communication is physiology, otherwise known as body language, and 38% is in ones voice; tonality, tempo, timbre & volume specifically. The other 7% is the words that you use. Since body language is an often talked about subject in the community, and tonality is pretty much common sense to all of us, I’ll be talking specifically about how you can make the MOST out of this last little piece of the puzzle.

What Words Are Comprised Of

There are 4 key parts we have after we break down the last 7% of communication. Words are made up of predicates, key words, common experiences and content chunks. I’ll be focusing on each part and also providing some other explanations of things that will be helpful to you in understanding how to utilize these techniques.

Let’s begin, shall we?

PREDICATES

Predicate: the word is defined as the part of a sentence or clause containing a verb and stating something about the subject. In NLP, the predicates people use often clue you in to their Representational System.

Ok, TIME OUT!

What is a Representational System, you ask?

Representational Systems

There are 4 basic types of people:

1. Primarily Visual

2. Primarily Kinesthetic

3. Primarily Auditory

4. Primarily Auditory Digital

Allow me to explain about these types of people real quick.

How people learn, memorize and communicate fall into these 4 Representational Systems:

1. Visual – by looking, seeing and visualizing

2. Kinesthetic – by touching, feeling and doing

3. Auditory – by listening and hearing

4. Auditory Digital – using logic, understanding and strategy

There are ways for you to train yourself to easily spot each type of person, but that is beyond the scope of this post.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s get back to predicates.

Before the quick background info, we agreed that the definition of predicate was basically a verb. Now let me explain what the importance of them actually is.

The verbs that people use when they speak often dictate what type of Representational System they prefer.

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Seduction has a several uncomfortable moments, and the more you are capable to make those moments natural and comfortable for yourself and for girl, the more successful you will be in the end. One of those moments happens on very beginning and its: opening. Starting conversation with an unknown person. The more you are relaxed and confident into what you are doing, the more person, in this case girl or group of girls will be relaxed and happy to talk with you. There are several moments in process of seduction when you will feel that uncomfortable pressure. Be aware that if you feel that uncomfortable emotion, you can be sure she does it as well even more intensive. It all comes down to your skill of making it as smooth as possible.

The secret of best Playboys on this world is they make them feel comfortable and natural doing wild thing they would never do with any other guys.

One of crucial moments, where you will feel the biggest pressure is Closing the deal. Either getting her contact info, or going for a kiss, or taking her some and going for sex. That’s where lots of guys fail a lot, because they are not smooth enough.

Important rule to remember is that you have to keep that uncomfortable emotion inside her comfort zone. If the action you are doing is too much for her, and outside her comfort zone, she won’t be ok with doing it, and you won’t achieve anything. You will very easily be able to read how she feels through her negative body language. It doesn’t mean you failed, or you cannot do it, its just you have to find other way that will get you there by not stepping outside her comfort zone.

You should be always trying to find most comfortable way for her to give you number, to kiss you, or to take her panties off.

Kiss closes

This is one of crucial moments that you cannot miss. How many times you been on a date and everything was going perfect, and then was this time where you had to kiss her,  felt it’s a time, but you were not sure, you waited, hesitated and then opportunity went away and you never got 2^nd chance to kiss her. How many times that happened to you? How many times you were going home angry on yourself because you hesitated and let perfect opportunity fly away? How many girls you lost because of it?

This is one more of those moments in seduction where girl won’t do much to help you; she will be sitting there, enjoying her feeling being around you, and waiting from you to kiss her. It’s like they expect from you to read her thoughts and align your actions according to her. And that’s exactly what you have to do if you want to be good with girls. If you dedicated yourself to this game, and decide to become a good player, you will get to point where you will feel what they do feel; you will start to think as they do.

Actually, recognizing the moment when she wants to be kissed its much easier then you could ever imagined, you can actually feel it. The moment on date, when something triggers your thought to kiss her, and you start thinking should you kiss her or not that is the moment to kiss her.

Trust your instincts; they are way more experienced in seduction then your logic

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 10: Connecting Part A

Legend:

What to talk about once you hook

Once you’re reaching a point where a girl wants you to stay and talk, I assume attraction and begin to connect with her. The point of forming a connection is really to figure out some commonalities and things that you can do together to set up a future date. Some people argue that they want to talk about crazy deep subjects but for now I would suggest that you just get used to talking about what each of you do for work, what you guys do for fun, and if you want to get into it really what you’re passionate about.

Edge:

I would say that conversations in clubs should really focus more on vibe than subject matter. In other words, DEFINITELY don’t try to be deep or profound – keep it fun, light and engaging, but not deep.

I very much enjoy having deep, profound conversations about different subjects. But I can guarantee that even if you manage to get a girl engaged into a deep conversation with you, she will run off the moment she sees something shiny-looking and fun (metaphorically speaking). Women do not go to clubs to think. They go there to feel.

Legend:

Creating rapport and connection also known as building comfort

Success can be a blessing and a curse. This summer has been crazy and I have definitely had some great and wild experiences, but the journey has just begun.

During August, I had let myself get comfortable because I was thinking, “This is way better than where I was at 4 months ago.” And it’s true… but this line of thinking is destructive…

I’m setting the criterion that if I’ve made significant improvement, it’s OK to stop doing all the good habits since I’ve had a “WIN”. It’s true, I’ve had a win, but I’m going for the big win… the win at a total lifestyle revolution.

And you might be reading thinking, “Lighten up… Don’t be so hard on yourself.” Just to clarify – this isn’t about me beating myself up. I think all of us should celebrate and be grateful every time we have a win in life. What I’m saying is that if you’re Read the rest of this entry »

Success can be a blessing and a curse. This summer has been crazy and I have definitely had some great and wild experiences, but the journey has just begun.

During August, I had let myself get comfortable because I was thinking, “This is way better than where I was at 4 months ago.” And it’s true… but this line of thinking is destructive…

I’m setting the criterion that if I’ve made significant improvement, it’s OK to stop doing all the good habits since I’ve had a “WIN”. It’s true, I’ve had a win, but I’m going for the big win… the win at a total lifestyle revolution.

And you might be reading thinking, “Lighten up… Don’t be so hard on yourself.” Just to clarify – this isn’t about me beating myself up. I think all of us should celebrate and be grateful every time we have a win in life. What I’m saying is that if you’re Read the rest of this entry »