Chasing State:
While I think it’s great to be in state while your out, being in state is probably the least important thing in pickup because you absolutely don’t need it to accomplish anything. State is nothing more than a tool for you to use. Furthermore, by worrying about being in state or waiting for it to happen, you’re shooting yourself in the foot instead of just getting on with having fun. Waiting to be in state is counterproductive and will actually throw you into a vicious cycle of negative feelings. Forget about “trying” to be in state. Go out and have fun.
2 Kinds of State: Validation Based State and Pure State Along with chasing state you want to avoid validation based state. There are so many guys out there who use attention from girls as fuel for “being in state”. When they get IOI’s from girls they emotionally react to them, taking their feelings of being happy and channeling that into a state they normally aren’t in. Doing this on a consistent basis is actually using validation in a way that hurts them in the long run and will cause them to be state dependent and “addicted” to “state. In other words, they are taking energy from an external source and using it to motivate them. Breaking free from being addicted to Validation Based State is not easy because the person has to completely retrain themselves.
On the other end of the scale, Pure State is when you’re happy being [Click to Continue Reading…]
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Opening Other People – Introvert Mode You should be aware of which mode the person is in because it helps you gauge the potential difficulty of opening the set. For instance, if you want to open a girl walking down the street but she’s in Introvert Mode, your opening line or immediate follow up statement (your transition) has to be powerful enough to hook her into conversation with you. If it isn’t, she’ll stay in Introvert Mode. Do take into account the fact that there will always be other things that factor into whether you’ll be able to hook her or not, such as; is she on the phone, is she late; those kind of things. If you succeed you bring her into Extrovert Mode and you’ll be able to communicate with her easily.