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Becoming value

housepartypuaLegend and I were talking recently about this whole game.  Call it what you want:  dating skills, learning how to be great in a relationship, learning game, being a pick-up artist, etc.

I discovered the materials of the seduction community/pick-up arts 10 years ago and I have been a student ever since.  Thing is, how I have perceived this area of my life and how I have pursued it has changed dramatically over the years.  This is all stuff I have talked about in prior posts, so I am not going to repeat myself.

What I want to talk about here is the idea of “gaming without game“.  What do I mean by that?

Well, the seduction community’s mentality has generally been that solid “game” is to learn some psychological tricks/manipulations and then to deliver them through conversation in one way or another.

Now, in the past few years the concept of “the natural” has been introduced, but nobody has really been able to pin down the concept of being a natural other than to convey it through vague philosophies and by painting tantalizing pictures of having effortless, seamless “game” by just having a good vibe.  I want to make clear that that is not what I am talking about here.

So what am I talking about when I say gaming without game?

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The latest craze in pickup has been the whole idea of “bring the value”. Before it seemed that many of the tactics and techniques revolved around taking value.  More than that it was really the mindset of how you came into interaction. The mindset behind the tactics, not the tactics themselves. If you wanted to just go up to talk to a girl and react to her, fishing for that feeling of validation, then you are taking value.

The community shifted thinking that you should bring value instead. Every person that you talk to, you should make their day better by bringing value to the interaction.  Simply because you want to. I think it’s great to bring value.  It is an important concept and a great way to game but I believe that there is a third way.

The third way and what I believe to be the future is to become the value. This is more of a passive [Click to Continue Reading…]

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