Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution
Part 24
Push Pull
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The Push Pull Dynamic
When I am in an interaction I like to slot everything that I can possible say and do into 2 categories. One element of the interaction is always either a Push or a Pull. Basically where in the first instance you can say or do something that pushes someone away from you and in the second instance you can say something or do something that will pull a person toward you. As with anything these are two polar opposites where a pull is on one end of the spectrum and push is on the other end. Think Mr. Nice guy on one end and Mr. Dick head on the other end. With any conversation I believe that a good balance is essential. You need to be able to go to either end of the spectrum and pull it back with good calibration.
Push
Would be any comment or action in a pushing manor. As if you are pushing someone away. For example any form of teasing or not fully answering someone’s questions. Leaving a sort of mystery about yourself or doing a take away. Basically anything that will get them working for you. This includes all forms of breaking in rapport.
Pull
On the flip side pull would be giving value, complements, and creating rapport. Think positive statements and things that bring people together. Smiles and positive touching as well are pulls.
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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution