Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 6: Overcoming AA

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Overcoming Approach Anxiety

Permanently overcoming approach anxiety comes down to progressively desensitizing ourselves to the approach. It will take a lot of work and many approaches, but I believe we can get there just like we can conquer any fear.

Dealing with approach anxiety in the field is only accomplished by pushing through the fear. Once we take action and start to approach it becomes much easier. Using tactics like immediately approaching the first group you see when you enter a venue and utilizing Mystery’s 3 second rule (where you see the girl you want and you immediately approach her, within 3 seconds) will help you immensely with approach anxiety.

If you follow the rule of always being in set (that is, always being in a conversation with people), even if you’re only talking to guys, as long as you are talkative and pushing forward you’ll avoid a lot of anxiety.

My simple advice: Act before you can think yourself out of taking action. Hesitation kills motivation.

Bottom line the more that you practice and gain reference experiences, the easier it will become.

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Getting Over Approach Anxiety Through Visualization

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 6: Approach Anxiety and why we have it.

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Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety really encompasses any fear that you may experience about starting conversations with strangers. I believe this comes about from being socially conditioned not to talk to strangers our entire lives.

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We Created Approach Anxiety

Let’s look at some of the social conditioning that we’ve seen as men throughout our lives.  I live in America where media images of love, dating, sex and relationships are abundant.

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 5 Part B:

Introduction:

Now I want to talk briefly about the different styles of opening and about opening routines. Everything can work weather it be an Indirect opener or Direct opener.

Many people prefer different things and different situations call for different approaches. Also some integral elements to approaching such as False Time Constraints, Body Rocking, and Rooting

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Types of Conversation starters and Openers

Situational

A situational opener can be used anywhere. This is where Read the rest of this entry »

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 5 Part A:

Introduction: Starting a conversation can be a simple as walking up and saying Hi or we can get really complicated talking about Pick-up Lines, many different types of Openers, and Opening routines.

Then we have different classifications which are basically all about how much interest your showing and what type of frame your coming from.

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The Goal: Opening

In this section, I am going to talk about openers and give you some examples. The goal for this section is to get you familiar with openers and opening routines so that you can go out and practice starting conversations with the sole goal of just starting a conversation.

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 4:

Edge: I think a lot of guides on eye contact focus on the mechanics of eye contact itself or ways to use eye contact to be more appealing. I will touch on what I have found to be most effective, but before I do I want to talk about what I have found to be the most essential and most foundational element of eye contact.

Speaking from experience, I don’t believe that people worry about their ability to have good, attractive eye contact because they don’t know the mechanics. My belief is that the problem is that eye contact creates a feeling of anxiousness in the aspiring pick-up artist (PUA) and as a result, they reflexively avert their eyes from other people.

So what do I feel the key element is to good eye contact? I believe that element to be: Thought.

What you think and how you think about it…

It’s been said countless times across all cultures throughout time that the eyes are the window to the soul. I think a practical and effective way to interpret that is that people can catch your “vibe” when they look into your eyes.

And I believe that your vibe is made from your Read the rest of this entry »