I sincerely believe the #1 cause of under-achievement and lack of success with women is not approaching or interacting with women enough.

Here are 3 excuses that we all have at least once in our lives which is used for not approaching:

“I don’t know what to say”

“I’m afraid”

“It was the wrong context” (or logistic excuse: she was seated, she was on the phone, a friend came just before I approached, I don’t have the time etc…)

But, I can say for sure that it has NOTHING to do with any of these.

You see, the reason as to why you’re not approaching is simply that you don’t have any INTEGRITY. Yes, no integrity, zero, nada.

I can hear you saying: “But DRH, I’m an honest and moral person and by the way what does it have to do anyway with pick-ups?”

Everything, my friend.

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Go out ALONE and decide that you are not going to drink for that night. NO MATTER WHAT!

What this does is it throws you in a situation where you can’t use needing to get another drink as a reason not to approach. By not drinking you won’t be numb to your inner feelings and thoughts. Also if you don’t start approaching you will start feeling uneasy because you are ALONE. This leads you to run into one of two realities.

1. Out of pain (the uneasiness you feel) you will start approaching people to get out of that state. You will notice the more people you talk to the more social you will feel. You should start feeling an excitement adrenaline energy rush. It’ll be like a drug and you’ll have an awesome night.

or

2. Out of pain (the same uneasiness) you’ll give into it and go home to alleviate that pain.

Ultimately the choice is yours, but the truth in it is if you man up and have courage, it becomes easy to achieve outcome #1.

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 6: Approach Anxiety and why we have it.

Legend:

Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety really encompasses any fear that you may experience about starting conversations with strangers. I believe this comes about from being socially conditioned not to talk to strangers our entire lives.

Edge:

We Created Approach Anxiety

Let’s look at some of the social conditioning that we’ve seen as men throughout our lives.  I live in America where media images of love, dating, sex and relationships are abundant.

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I was talking with Legend recently and we were in a discussion about sticking points, motivation and momentum in the realm of picking up women and general self-improvement.

Every choice we make is not just a single event in a vacuum. No, every choice we make sets the direction of our momentum.

As Legend has said, the more you do something, the more you will WANT to continue doing that thing. Just to set the context, this applies to things that you know you should do to progress towards our goals, but just haven’t been doing.

Amidst the hashing, we started talking about how if we choose the good action and at least start, we’re able to keep going with it, without problem. At the same time, if we choose something counter to what will get us to our goal (e.g. playing a video game instead of going out, surfing Facebook instead of studying how to improve our game, etc.), it becomes even HARDER to pursue our goal and we’re even Read the rest of this entry »

What we focus on will define all of our interactions. As I have become better and better with every week of practice, I find it is harder to detach myself from an outcome. The irony in all of this is that going out and doing this in itself is a paradox. You have to each have faith in yourself, but at the same time not put demands on yourself. But even still you have to take action. If you don’t expect anything from yourself, then you open the door to trying new things. This is a current sticking point I am working through.

For me it’s easier to open sets and test out new things if I don’t hold in my head that I am good at anything, even if sometimes I’m very good. This is a mental trick that I do to not experience approach anxiety, but not necessarily the end solution. I really need to get back and think about the long process and end game, not just worry about the here and now.

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I’ve been surfing around the different blogs and forums today and I’ve come across the concept of “Destroying Anxiety” over and over again.

I’m going to throw in my 2 cents on this because I spent WAY too long trying to eliminate anxiety.

See, my belief (and I think a lot of guys think this on some level) was that guys who were good somehow lost their anxiety. Like naturals didn’t have anxiety here and really great pick-up artists (PUAs) found a way to eliminate it, then they started getting good. So I say to myself, “Well, I have a lot of approach anxiety. I’m going to have to get rid of this, then I can start doing this stuff.”

It was a bad strategy. I spent WAY too much time on the sidelines, searching for a product that would “eliminate my anxiety”.

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