Chasing State:
While I think it’s great to be in state while your out, being in state is probably the least important thing in pickup because you absolutely don’t need it to accomplish anything. State is nothing more than a tool for you to use. Furthermore, by worrying about being in state or waiting for it to happen, you’re shooting yourself in the foot instead of just getting on with having fun. Waiting to be in state is counterproductive and will actually throw you into a vicious cycle of negative feelings. Forget about “trying” to be in state. Go out and have fun.
2 Kinds of State: Validation Based State and Pure State Along with chasing state you want to avoid validation based state. There are so many guys out there who use attention from girls as fuel for “being in state”. When they get IOI’s from girls they emotionally react to them, taking their feelings of being happy and channeling that into a state they normally aren’t in. Doing this on a consistent basis is actually using validation in a way that hurts them in the long run and will cause them to be state dependent and “addicted” to “state. In other words, they are taking energy from an external source and using it to motivate them. Breaking free from being addicted to Validation Based State is not easy because the person has to completely retrain themselves.
On the other end of the scale, Pure State is when you’re happy being who you are and you don’t give a shit about what anything else thinks. This energy comes from inside, so the only person responsible for this is you. This is a lot harder to achieve because you first have to accept who you are as a person and you have to know your own value. The other thing about Pure State is that you have be “in the moment”. The ability to enjoy things as they are happening not only makes you attractive to women but the removal of the past and future from your consciousness gives you the ability to exist free of limitation.
There 3 qualities guys need for Pure State. They are sexual confidence, social confidence and core confidence/identity. To have these confidences, you need to be comfortable escalating to and having sex, being comfortable and dominant with women in social settings and be comfortable with and know yourself. Guys who have consistent results with women have good levels of all the three confidences.
How Are You Getting Into State?
Look back at the last time you were “in state”. How did you get there? Was it energy received from an external source? Or was it energy conjured by knowing your own value and living in the moment?
If your answer was the former, you’ve got some work to do. Start having more sex, be more social and develop your identity.
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great set of articles. I think you’ve made a very important point about how groups can have introverted v. extroverted character and how individuals in the group are spread in a spectrum. Is this an original idea or was it inspired by something else?
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