Edge – Portrait of a Pick-up Artist

When I first learned about pick-up artists and the “seduction community” back in 1999, I can remember the thoughts that went through my head.

“Is it really possible to meet beautiful women and just… pick them up? Is this real or is it a marketing scheme? If it works, will it work for me?”

And so I explored. I read. I visited websites and read more. I visited forums and read more still. I watched videos, listened to audio and practiced NLP self-improvement techniques.

But I didn’t do one thing… one very important thing, which was to TAKE ACTION IN THE REAL WORLD.

That’s one of the reasons why I harp on that point so much here. I wasted so much time “studying” when in reality, you can’t START with studying… studying only really helps after you’ve put in some real time and effort into doing your best in the real world then consulting the materials available. Reading won’t give you game. Taking action and practicing in real life will…

I hate to say it, but I spent years studying when I could have been actually learning.

Finally, I started to take action. Yeah, I was nervous and really awkward at first, but I learned to get better and smoother with it. Soon enough, I had a serious girlfriend and I retreated into the safety, warmth and comfort of a relationship. It wasn’t exactly what I wanted, but it was comfortable. And despite all of my self-cheering, I didn’t truly believe at that time that I could do better. Sure, I told myself that I was the hottest guy on the planet and I could have any girl I wanted, but truthfully, I didn’t really believe it. I didn’t want to lose what I had and be alone again.

So I ended up staying in a relationship way too long… longer than I should have for that particular one. I eventually broke it off and took some more action, got more results, got a little more confident. But then some dating failure would knock me on my ass and I would either a) fall into a depression, b) retreat into wasting time on something dumb like video games or watching an several seasons of a TV program back-to-back or c) make the next girl who liked me my girlfriend.

This cycle also went on for years – trying stuff and then retreating into comfort (either through a girlfriend or through some waste-of-time distraction.)  That is not to say that I did not learn a tremendous amount during my relationships – I learned invaluable lessons about women, relationships and life in general.  Still, I never quite felt like I was the man that I wanted to be in terms of being attractive to women.

Finally I hit a breaking point and said to myself, “Look, life is going to keep going whether you like it or not.  You won’t be able to live with yourself until you truly feel like you have this area of your life handled.”  See, at that point I knew that a woman could be extremely attracted to me.  But I didn’t want a woman to be attracted to me.  I wanted women to be attracted to me.

So I decided: no more distractions, no more girlfriends, no more commitments to anything else other than learning how to pick-up women and crack the code on being attractive to women in general, on MY terms.  This is where I was when I started going out every weekend with Legend.  This is when I started Pick-up Evolution.

I turned my life into a giant pick-up experiment.  Everything I did was focused on increasing my game and my “score”.  Everything I read, everything I talked about, everything I focused on.

I lived totally outside my comfort zone and practiced everything I had every read or heard.  I did everything multiple times.  I did my absolute best and always in the back of my mind was the upcoming field report / lay report.  Looking back on it, I was in a totally different place than I am now.

These days, I get checked out by women more than I ever have… Funny thing is, I don’t even care!  I have one girl that I see steadily and I’m happy with that.  I think of pick-up as a skillset and toolkit that I know of and understand, but it’s just a piece of my knowledge and skillset, like learning to play the piano or ride a bike.  It’s just part of my life that I know about.

Generally speaking, I don’t think I would have any trouble picking up a hot girl and, if I wanted to, making her my girlfriend.  But the confidence and effectiveness that I have with women these days isn’t because I discovered a new, super powerful seduction method…  It’s because I STOPPED studying seduction and started focusing intensely on living my dream and investing myself into projects that I truly believe in.

See, when I was practicing pick-up, it got me out of my comfort zone and into really putting my balls out there.  And I have had success and will continue to because I put my ass on the line.  But more importantly, it taught me to GO FOR IT in real life.  That is, stop fearing and just go for my dreams and put my best effort out there.

These days, I work on my projects all day long – my work is my life, but I absolutely love what I’m doing.  It dominates my attention and fulfills me in a way that no girl, no matter how hot, ever could.  And because I have such a passion for my work and my own pursuit of excellence, I feel like women are irresistibly attracted to this energy.  It is a nice bonus.

I think it’s funny to say it here within this website, but I just don’t have time to run around banging hot women.  I have work to do!  That’s how into my work I am now.

But rest assured, I am not stopping my contributions to Pick-up Evolution.  On the contrary – I think with my most recent phase shift in perspective on life and love, I will be able to offer up even better information on here.

Related posts:

1. Why I Hate a “Pick-up Artist”

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