I’ve been running back to the fundamental points lately in my mind. This is because we had so much success in the early months and then I hit a giant plateau. I believe many people are stuck in different forms of plateaus.
Then I tried a different approach, starting at the beginning again and I think I went backwards in my development. Sometimes you have to to figure out what works and what doesn’t. A trick that my mind plays on itself is “once you have something handled you don’t have to do it anymore”, which is completely not true.
I compare this to working out at a gym. Once you can curl 50 pounds, it’s not OK to stop because if you stopped doing it and then try to pick up 50 pounds a month later without working out in that time you will not be able to.
This is the concept that things never stop. I have found that in studying this, once your mind gets a handle that you are doing something correctly, you forget that you are making an effort to practice good habits and then sometimes you fall into the trap of not being up to do it or you just think you don’t need it anymore. Your mind thinks that you are above it because you have been doing so well, but in reality whatever you stop doing, you are stopping doing what was working. I think the real key is to never forget your fundamentals and the things that worked and consciously always be improving them and practicing. If you don’t do it you will lose it, this goes for everything.
I want to start creating some kind of journal of things that work for me so I can repeatedly work on them and always be doing them and improving them.
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Legend,
I think this is a spot-on concept, and you goal is a good one too. I myself am going to start doing this.
This could be key to developing your own structure that is you, and not some guru–a model all your own.
I would suggest starting with basic points, and writing them down. Then work on those, and let them sit. I think that focusing on a few things will lead to finer points within those things that are working, that can then be written down after a week or so. Maybe you’ll even file some of the first things away into a broader principle.
But I think that doing this will give you, (and I) a much clearer perspective on what attractive qualities we have, and congruent ways to handle logistics and so on.
Might I also suggest a kind of horizon challenge. LONG term goals that can be put in small text at the bottom or whatever (e.g., completely fluid game, legendary parties, party theft, and so on) that can be worked towards?
Yes, really my whole point is to develop my own structure. Something that works for me. I think it is good to write down basic things and build on them that’s really the way I function as I don’t know something so I start with knowing nothing and just going baby steps until I get somewhere.
I think long-term goals are great. This is really more for me, about building a lifestyle.
Thanks for the comments keep on coming.
Well I’m kind of really stuck in a pickle and have been since I was 16 developing Anorexia and all it’s mundane and bizarre habits eg, severe ocd with food, constant insecurities drifting round my head life a carousal etc etc. I am now 20 and have tried every single day to change my ways and even though I eat and fit into societies conception of a normal looking person…I’m very far from it in a negative way…think I have run out of ideas to improve my circumstance…Any Ideas?
Well I’m kind of really stuck in a pickle and have been since I was 16 developing Anorexia and all it’s mundane and bizarre habits eg, severe ocd with food, constant insecurities drifting round my head life a carousal etc etc. I am now 20 and have tried every single day to change my ways and even though I eat and fit into societies conception of a normal looking person…I’m very far from it in a negative way…think I have run out of ideas to improve my circumstance…Any Ideas?
Hey Ale,
Have you seen a professional psychologist/psychiatrist about this? If you haven’t, I would recommend that you do.
Self-improvement is great, but with what you’re describing it’s beyond the scope of what I would say I am qualified to talk about.
With that said, I can tell you that Vipassana yoga and meditation have helped me a lot to keep myself calm and “free” from negative thought loops. I recommend looking into it and starting a daily practice… do it every day. Shinzen Young’s course, “The Science of Enlightenment” is an absolutely awesome course about meditation.
John Kehoe’s Mind Powers audio course is also one of the best “mind mastery” courses I have ever heard. Definitely get your hands on a copy if you can.
Hey Ale,
Have you seen a professional psychologist/psychiatrist about this? If you haven’t, I would recommend that you do.
Self-improvement is great, but with what you’re describing it’s beyond the scope of what I would say I am qualified to talk about.
With that said, I can tell you that Vipassana yoga and meditation have helped me a lot to keep myself calm and “free” from negative thought loops. I recommend looking into it and starting a daily practice… do it every day. Shinzen Young’s course, “The Science of Enlightenment” is an absolutely awesome course about meditation.
John Kehoe’s Mind Powers audio course is also one of the best “mind mastery” courses I have ever heard. Definitely get your hands on a copy if you can.