One thing I’ve been thinking about lately as I revamp my game from the ground up is the roles that we play and how they affect our game. The frames that we set for ourselves without realizing it can have a huge effect on everything.
It’s important to think about what you’re doing and how are you doing it because everything can drastically affect the outcome and the type of girls that you are having success with. If you’re playing the part of a certain type of guy, you’re only going to get a certain type of girl that meshes with that persona.
Take a look at the underlying meanings of your approach to game so that you can plan your course of action accordingly. You want to have a style of dress and style of conversation that fits the type of person you want to portray. You also have to think about the kind of girl that you want because only certain types of girls are going to go for certain types of guys.
Certain types of girls will have one night stands with certain types of guys and those same girls might want a relationship with other types of guys. Think about the underlying actions and how you are approaching your interactions. I believe your success will skyrocket when everything fits together in a congruent way.
The Roles
The creepy guy
This guy stands in the corner or stands at the bar and does not approach. He hovers and watches all the action and he’s getting no one because he is not taking any action.
The pickup artist
The pickup artist is a really bad role to have because he draws his validation from the reactions he gets from other people socially. Only a pickup artist will get anxiety when going up to talk to girls that he is not even attracted to! All of their internal state is based on the reactions they get externally, making it difficult to get good reactions sometimes.
The question guy
This guy just asks lots of questions and comes off needy and annoying. He takes some action, but never really gets anywhere.
The Entertaining guy
This guy, although he may entertain a lot of people, tends to be in lots of different interactions and is just a fun bar guy. He is usually pegged as that crazy bar guy. The girls will make out with him, but they don’t take him home. He usually gets nowhere. The girls like him, but he is just more of the gay friend or that bar guy.
The Guido
This is the guy who runs around asking girls if they want to fuck. The Alpha ex-high school jock. He tells girls to fuck off if they don’t want him. He’s going to get really drunk girls that are attracted to him.
The party guy
This guy is similar to entertaining guy, but he knows how to escalate. Think frat boy. Loud, obnoxious, and dominant. This role lends itself towards the party girl. The one that’s out at the club every night and knows all the promoters. If you want a girl like this, the loud party guy is for you. It will work when you’re in your early twenties, but I would not recommend this approach as you get older.
The funny guy
This guy is extremely funny and basically laughs the girls pants off. It works on certain types of girls that go for funny guys. Being funny is a great tool, but if mastery is your goal, don’t let it be your whole game.
The interesting guy
This is a guy that has a lot of really interesting things to say. He is not going to be able to hold the attention of a bubbly party girl, but he can get into deep conversations with the sober girl. It works for girls that are more intellectual, but not the party girls.
The sexual guy
This guy is plainly sexual and makes no apology for it. He will get fast closes and girls who are sexually open. Its not going to work on some girls, but on other ones you will be amazed at the results.
The high-value guy
The high-value guy can have anyone. He operates in a screening frame and thinks he rules the world. People must work for his time. I believe this is the most powerful role, but it is not for everyone.
What to do
Look at your personality and what you like to do and play your strengths. If you can actually play to your strengths instead of trying to develop a completely new persona, then you will get the results you want much faster. Play to your natural strengths and get rid of everything that doesn’t work.
For me, I want to focus on being the high-value guy mixed with the sexual guy, humor, and interesting. Taking on lots of different persona’s will take time to develop, but if I focus on one at a time I will be able to master them all. I enjoy this as a hobby; you don’t need to go to extremes to get a girl.
Thoughts?
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