I love how everyone these days is all “natural.” This is very funny how a lot of new guys in the community preach natural without having anything to back it up.
Sure its great to be natural but how?
This is the question they always can’t answer. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t talked to everyone, but after talking to a senior instructor from a well-known pickup company the other week I came to the conclusion that he was absolutely full of shit.
It’s pretty easy once you go into field a lot to tell who has real-world skill and who is just a seminar teacher. When you ask people questions you can tell if they are really the real deal or if they’re making themselves out to be something, but really they are full of crap.
I’ve been on this whole natural thing for a few months and quite frankly it’s not working. Everyone preaches just do it, and accept for yourself that you can do it, and in your mind that you’re already doing it, etc. They say everything will be fine. This is a bunch of seminar crap because the ideas are nice in theory; they lift you up and motivate you, but how do you put them in the practice. This is what we are all striving for, being able to just do it, but there is a path to becoming good at game.
I think we need a solid structure and some sort of routine stack to go on. Not something that you are reciting verbatim, but stories that will get you to the place you want to be and convey the things that you need to convey. Just poking around in the dark trying to just get a good vibe is fine, but it won’t get you anywhere.
I’ve been creating a good vibe with people for a few months now and frankly most of my conversations have great vibes, but it leaves a lot lacking. There isn’t any forward motion and I think I need to set out something practical and applicable that I can work on every time I go out. Moreover, measurable. That way I am able to build on something, not just vibing aimlessly. We should be able to vibe, but that is just a small piece of the over all method.
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