I’ve been working on inner confidence extensively lately and its brought up some major issues. Mostly around internal mentalities on how I think society conditions us to think about success. Always affirming that one day we will be successful rock stars with out any work.
I’ve found in business and especially in self-improvement most people want others to take responsibility for their situation or their own personal self-improvement. Even I see myself doing it. Especially in the past putting my own in-action and blame on other people. Be it for motivation or having other people prod me to take action. I think especially in the community everyone is looking for a quick fix or some one to solve their problems.
People want some one else to hold them accountable, force them to go out, force them to talk to strangers, or get them going on a new project.
Coach them through every step of the way. I see this over and over again. Only now do I see that I do it to an extent to. The first step to solving this I think is to realize its going on and to take full responsibility for yourself.
Sure its nice to have a wing man to force you into sets.
Sure its nice to have a buddy calling you up and dragging you out.
Sure its nice to have a specified path to follow to get where you want.
BUT
When it comes down to is actually doing it and doing it for yourself. You can be shown the way but it comes down to taking your own steps. BY YOUR SELF. Your guru can show you the door and point you in the right direction but what it comes down to is ONLY you can do it. This is your life! Your wing man won’t always be their for you. This paragraph won’t always be in front of you to motivate you.
That is why I think its extremely important to start to realize that everything in your life is from your own doing. (I will put a caviat sure somethings are out of your control) BUT what it comes down to is that if you take full responsibility for your own motivation, your own improvement, and your own constant action to reach success then you will solidify a lot of you inner confidence.
The shift of power is amazing when you are not demanding it from other people. Everything you want in life is yours for the taking if you take responsibility for it. There is one problem. The problem is you have to do the exercises. You have to take all the steps for yourself by yourself. In the end to truly overcome your demons you have to face them. I think I’ve been running from them for too long.
If you aren’t out practicing and approaching, getting yourself into new situations then you are not taking action and internally it is self sabotaging. Putting it off or finding the perfect way to do something. Putting expectations on other people to get it done for you is undermining your own success. Taking the ball fully in your own court and going for it is the only way to true confidence. Some of you may argue with me but through out my life I have always depended on people for different things. I think to be truly free and to be truly in complete control of my life I have to complete take everything on myself. If I can do that then I know I can do anything.
My point is to take responsibility for everything in your life. If you want to do something and get good at it. Go do it. Do it now. Not later this is your life. Its not the practice run.
You only get one shot at it and there are no repeats. If your not going to do it now when your getting motivated to do it then lets face it when will you ever? This thought is something I have been playing with when ever my mind tells me to put something off. I tell myself if I don’t do this now when will I ever become successful at it if I keep putting it off. My mind is tricking me.
We only get one shot at life. Take your best shot now. There are no practice runs. There are no do overs. There is only this one. Its time to get bold. Take the best shot you can. Take it now before your life passes you by.
No related posts.
{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }
Great post man!
Great post man!
Mind powers is coming slowly… prepare for world domination.
Mind powers is coming slowly… prepare for world domination.
great post
(caveat not caviat)
great post
(caveat not caviat)
Inner game is one of the biggest parts of PU. Mastering it greatly influences your skills and can make your success with women skyrocket. However, a lot of people in the community don’t realize that inner game affects EVERY aspect of your life. Confidence is attractive, but confidence also leads to other successes. This article addresses that, and I can’t wait to see more about what you two have to say about it.
Inner game is one of the biggest parts of PU. Mastering it greatly influences your skills and can make your success with women skyrocket. However, a lot of people in the community don’t realize that inner game affects EVERY aspect of your life. Confidence is attractive, but confidence also leads to other successes. This article addresses that, and I can’t wait to see more about what you two have to say about it.
Yeah becoming Confident is KEY. Everything changes. Thanks for the comment Easy E…
BJarne thanks for the corrections on my crappy spelling haha
Yeah becoming Confident is KEY. Everything changes. Thanks for the comment Easy E…
BJarne thanks for the corrections on my crappy spelling haha
This is a very good point and it really is critical. Some people take responsibility for themselves whilst others do not. Being able to be anchored to your own reality and push yourself and be responsible for your successes and failures alike is vital because it gives you that mindset which women find incredibly attractive.
This is a very good point and it really is critical. Some people take responsibility for themselves whilst others do not. Being able to be anchored to your own reality and push yourself and be responsible for your successes and failures alike is vital because it gives you that mindset which women find incredibly attractive.
Randall – I couldn’t agree with you more. I find the a lot of people won’t even fully read a post like this because they are truly blind or just not ready to take a hard look at themselves.
I feel that only after taking a hard look at yourself can you move forward.
Randall – I couldn’t agree with you more. I find the a lot of people won’t even fully read a post like this because they are truly blind or just not ready to take a hard look at themselves.
I feel that only after taking a hard look at yourself can you move forward.