Edge and I have been putting together a short book on everything we’ve been doing over the last six months in game. It’s going to be a 30+ articles that will be posted over a three-month period on the blog and released to the newsletter as Free Book to our dedicated readers.
These articles are going to detail everything that we have currently been doing. As we are releasing these I want to my move forward and evolve into a more advanced way of doing things.
The more you study this, the more you start to realize that you can’t have a rigid game model and at the same time if you want to actually get anywhere you can’t have no model at all. I’ve found that you need something to practice and the whole idea of “just do it” is a little silly.
Lately I’ve been looking for something that is more fluid and is really the next model of game. I’ll be posting about it in my next few posts.
I want to strip away the old teachings and move forward to version 3 of pick-up.
Everything has to be stripped down and I’m going to start from scratch again but with my experience I’m going to put in place habits and goals in a way that this time I believe after few months of hard-core practice I can achieve much better results.
Three major re-frames:
1. Pickup should be fun and not work.
2. Pickup is about going out and meeting new friends then getting laid will be an after thought.
3. You do not need the perfect pickup, there is no surefire way and you will constantly make mistakes.
What this accomplishes:
1. When we go out our interactions should be fun, not work. Lets Re-framing everything in a way so that it is fun then a lot of performance pressure and anxiety should go away.
2. Going out with the goal of meeting people for fun and seeing if they live up to your expectations gives you the power and also makes everything light and enjoyable. Make friends with everyone and you will naturally end up getting laid.
3. Coming from old-school teachings really takes us into thinking that we can manufacture the perfect approach so we don’t have to fail. The big problem with this is it creates extreme performance anxiety and approach anxiety. If we frame it as it is okay to fail and screw up and that there is never a perfect approach then it frees us to actually try and then we will succeed.
It’s important to look at the foundations and the fundamentals but if we get that all right then everything else will click and we won’t run into problems later.
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Yet another great insight! When I first got into PU, I was going out with the goal of thinking I need to get laid otherwise I will fail.
I’ve since re-framed that into just going out and having fun with myself and any new people I will meet. I don’t put so much pressure on myself to get to the pussy.
I’ve found that I get MORE now that I’m after it less.
Hi Del,
I’ve found that to be the case as well.
I think the model that Legend is talking about is a much better way to go about this whole “pick-up thing”.
a) It’s more enriching to our lives to have friends and a social circle.
b) Everyone wins – you and your new friends will have fun together in general.
c) It’s a lot more “socially healthy”, in my opinion.
These are just my thoughts. I think Mystery Method is great if you have a flashy career and like to dress flashy by nature, but it’s not the only way. This is not a bash of his method – he’s got a lot of great concepts and ideas. I’m just saying that sometimes the “non-glamorous” solution is the best solution.