Legend – Push and Pull

by Legend

in Technique

After talking to Edge the other day we came to a small conclusion that everything in an interaction is either pushing or pulling. Whether it be a blatant “push pull” line or something more elaborate, everything falls into the act of either pulling the person toward you or pushing them away.

This could be put into terms such as a neg, tease, or disqualification as a push. Well on the other hand pulling them in with a complement or story.

This in itself sends mixed signals to a woman which will build attraction when done right. Another benefit is that it always keeps them on their toes. Notice this has to be calibrated per person and on the fly depending on the person you are talking to. Everything is calabrated to their comfort levels if you look at any interaction really closely.

I have a current problem of pushing way too much. Take these scenarios: At the bar you need more initial push then at a social house party. Then again with a bartender you need more push then a normal bar girl. Keep in mind all of these need to be calibrated. Sometimes an initial push is not even necessary if the girl is already attracted. Some girls have a personality stemming from movies and what not of a testy bitchy way of interacting with guys, although in my experiences most girls are extremely friendly.

I will push a lot and then need to recover for from it. It needs to be balanced and calibrated for each girl. Thus, I am almost thinking that maybe I should start pulling first sometimes as for some people just striking up a conversation is a good pull then followed by a teasing push. But when I have already established my high value through knowing people, the way I dress, and just coming and talking to them for me a strong push is not needed most of the time.

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natalie crepps April 15, 2009 at 3:50 pm

who is this girl in the picture. she looks like someone i went to school with. can anyone please help me. thankyou.
natalie

natalie crepps April 15, 2009 at 3:50 pm

who is this girl in the picture. she looks like someone i went to school with. can anyone please help me. thankyou.
natalie

Legend April 15, 2009 at 3:55 pm

No idea. Just a random picture I pulled off the net 6 months ago. I really have no idea sorry. Good luck :)

Legend April 15, 2009 at 3:55 pm

No idea. Just a random picture I pulled off the net 6 months ago. I really have no idea sorry. Good luck :)

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