I believe that being a story teller is a very attractive quality in pick-up. These days people tend to boil pick up down to two sections. Natural game and Routine based game.
I have been struggling with the thought of just going natural for a long time. I tried extensively. It didn’t work well. My old natural self is not a guy that approaches or pushes the envelope. The whole “just do it” is not for me. Some people need structure.
Instead I want to have stories from my life that I can use to demonstrate value.
Not some one else’s stories, but my own. To do this, I need to create stories from my life that I can use to convey my identity. Basically to put it in less nerdish-talk, I need stories that I can use to tell people who I am.
Mystery calls this a grounding sequence.
I really have to buckle down and just write it out. A while ago I posted Mystery’s article on grounding. It’s really the only thing in the community that kind of explains what we should be doing.
Taking other people’s material and using it is fine, but it’s not really you.
It’s kind of hollow. I want to create something that is me and something that I can practice. I’m not exactly sure how to do it yet, but will blog more about it as it arises.
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I finally read your response to my response to your post about “having structure in your game.” Yesterday, I had a discussion with a friend of mine(who’s good at pick-up) about what he does in set, and it’s pretty much almost the same as what I do, which is disarming the target and conveying my personality through stories. A few of the things I always talk about are college, my dreams, ambitions, and hobbies.
What I realized is that I’ve been doing things that’s headed in the right direction, I just have to tweak a couple things here and there to make them sound more appealing. A sticking point I’ve been having though is transitioning from the opener to the identity-conveying stories. My openers are also very simple, I just go in and say, “Hey guys how are y’all doin tonight?” Sometimes I open with something different depending on the situation but that’s how I usually open a set. If I feel myself in “panic mode” or can’t relax to keep the conversation going, I’d immediately use a routine I made up for emergency purposes.
I’m just wondering how you guys initiate conversation and transition smoothly into stories. This is an important topic because once I get to Step 2, then I can get to Step 3, which is the close.
Once you have the group hooked they usually will start asking about you which will directly and smoothly transition into your grounding.
As far as how I will initiate the conversation. I’ll do it with any number of “openers” and stack forward spitting out stuff until the group hooks. I’ll tease them or just keep plowing a bit. If it isn’t transitioning into a conversation about who I am and who she is I will start to qualify her which I can use to elicit a response where I now basically go “oh your cool” which now justifies me wanting to get to know her and I transition to rapport/comfort then.
Hope that helps. Its not really in depth.