Embracing rejection is a key concept I haven’t fully wrapped my head around, but I want to. I find myself being able to open almost anything, except the girls I really really want. If it’s an easy set and there won’t be a blow out I will go for it. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve had no problem doing mixed sets and doing frankly whatever I want except the ones that I really am super attracted to. I think this stems from not having an abundance mindset because every night I go out it seems like there is only one girl all night that I really really want.
The problem with this is that I don’t practice going after the one I want because I’m afraid that it won’t work, but in reality it will never work if I don’t try. This is clearly only an internal struggle with myself that I must overcome and master. I am in it to get the best. Bar none.
No one can do this for me, just like I cannot do it for any of you. In the end, we must all face our own demons. No one can do it for us. We have to come to terms with this and accept it because I know that many people chase a magic pill, but in reality much of this can all be bypassed.
We have to level for ourselves, first we have to accept that we have to face our demons on our own and then we just have to do it. I know it’s way easier said than done, but in the end it is only you and your demon. I can feel for myself that once I fully embrace it and face down my demon the world will open for me.
When it really comes down to it in this life you have to do it all on your own. To shape yourself into your ideal version, you have to take action. Running on my thread of facing demons, I believe that something like this, the whole self-development thing, the real change will come only when you are taking action when it is the hardest for you. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. If something scares you then you probably should do it.
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Dude, great post. This is probably my favorite post from you – I’m going to read this every morning because it’s so true and I need to keep reinforcing it.
I am responsible for my own success. It’s all on me. I am responsible for taking action in spite of whatever bullshit roadblock is there at the moment.
I even rated the post.
I have had a really rough time in the field for the past couple of years. I identify so much with this article for when I have (on those rare occasions) gone after what I truly wanted it went down in flames.
So i think a good question is that if you consistently fail is that really a good way to go- is ignorance truly bliss?
I think rejection is a funny thing because we are trying to embrace it so that it allows us to take action. I think the thing that you and I both suffer from at times is that issue of “on those rare occasions.”
The way I look at it for myself is that if I do it all the time eventually I will get it right. Even if I have to fuck it up with 1000 girls that I really want in the end when I get that one it will be worth it.
I believe that the failure thing is fine but at the same time lately I am trying to reframe it to instead of failure to practice. Say each and every one of us for example needs to do 20K approaches to get good. Not 20k open and eject ones but 20k of pushing them as far as possible. My point with the elimination of rejection is that we will take action to practice more if we either embrace rejection or reframe it. Its all about just getting experiences and for some of us I believe it will take much longer but I think the fastest way to get there is continually pushing yourself and for me that really comes down to internal motivation and controlling my emotions ( fear of rejection)