Lately I am trying to live by this:
“When things are going there best its time to work harder or your success will slowly fade away.”
It seems over the years that everyone I’ve met has visions and dreams but 50% of them never take action on them. Then there is the other 49% that do manage to pull themselves away from the TV and their daily routine but they seem to quit before they reach the finish line. I say this with a caveat that the finish line is a loose term becuase once you reach a certain level of success you must put on going effort into it but most people abandon future development. They settle for good results when, if they pushed just a little father they could achieve greatness. They shift their believes so they don’t have to follow through on their commitments. They start to tell themselves stories about why it isn’t for them and go off to invest time into another project which they never finish.
Take this niche that we are in. Self-development geared toward becoming better with women. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE I’ve been out with or met has achieved some level of results BUT they have all stopped once they are great with out fully pushing themselves to super stardom. They hit a certain level of success and then they think its over or its handled. They walk away with out finishing what they started. Whether it be for something else or becuase they have some internal issues surrounding whats really going on.
I think it takes a special commitment to yourself and to no one else to reach that next level. Most people go through different phases in their lives. They think they want something but then inside they fully never come to terms with it. They invest years upon years into something and they turn their backs with out following through. This is a common thread I see everywhere.
In my opinion it all comes down to internal barriers. Whether it be fear of society excepting you or fear of what your parents might think. Even worse internal fear of truly actualizing your dreams. Something inside holds you back and then you make up reasons in your mind to shift your attention. You tell yourselves a story why what you set out to do no longer aligns with your core.
Sure I agree with those who have true value changes but for the most part everyone seems to just get better at telling themselves elaborate stories instead of facing your fear.
I strongly believe that to be truly at piece with yourself you need to conquer your fears. I don’t think you can ever be fulfilled completely if you don’t. Turing your back on it only embeds deeper problems that will surface later. Hell if you set out to do it in the first place it must have been something you wanted. If you can’t handle the fire you should not have wasted all the time playing in it to begin with.
For me I used to hate writing. Now its all I do.
I used to be terrified to approach girls. Now I can walk up to almost anyone and have her in my bed or a committed relationship if I want.
I haven’t fully mastered it but I am 85-95% to the place I want to be and when I reach it I will take it to the next level.
Now more then ever is time to get my act together and push to the next level. If you are not developing I believe you are dieing. My point in all of this is to stick to what you have committed yourself to. To truly handle all of your fears.
Ask yourself if its something you truly want?
Is my reason for not doing it real or is it just something my mind has fabricated so I don’t have to face one of my core fears?
Am I not doing it becuase I am afraid someone won’t accept me or I won’t make it?
To be truly free you must conquer your fears and meet them head on.
Thoughts?
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