I am sure many of you who read this already are familiar with this. Others may forget about this so it’s never a bad thing to refresh everyone’s mind. I remember sitting down and talking with someone the other day and they asked me, “So how do you really handle rejection? In the beginning, you were obviously rejected more than you were accepted. How did you deal with that?”
Here’s what I said.
For me, I decided to treat making a connection with women like inviting them to a house party. If you invite 100 women, 50 are going to say ‘yes.’ Out of those 50, about 25 will actually show up. With all of your hosting duties, you’ll probably end up talking to 12 of these women for a decent amount of time throughout the night. Out of these 12, you’ll probably get 6 numbers from them. When you contact them, you may get 3 women to call you back. And out of those 3, maybe one will keep regular contact and a relationship will ensue.
It sounds crazy but that’s how it is out there. You are going to go out there and meet many women (if you are actually taking action and making an effort). A very small percentage of those women will actually continue to talk to you 6 months down the road. As you get better at creating connections and become more comfortable with yourself, you will notice your success rate going up.
But at the beginning, you’ll be on the grind. You’ll be rejected. People may even laugh at you or think you’re weird or creepy. In the end, it’s not about how bad you get rejected. It’s about how much you can take and keep going. That’s where the evolution comes in.
A part of handling rejection is coming to terms that it will happen. As good as I am with making a connection with people, I still get rejected every now and then. After a while, you just say to yourself, ‘hmm…that blows. Well, I gotta keep moving.” Even at your best, you may mess up. It happens to everyone. And it’s ok. This is all for the greater good.
To become the best person we can possibly be and the only way to do that is to evolve through interaction.
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If you’re inviting 100 women to your house, and 50 say yes, you already have 50 phone numbers.
But that aside, you’ll have a greater chance of success if you focus on one or two women a night. Instead of having 100 people over for a house party, have 10 over for a pot luck, including two girls you’re interested in. They’ll compete for your attention. Make sure drinks are available, and invite them to sleep over (BUT NOT FOR SEX). The next morning you can have an impromptu date with whatever one sticks around longest, or both of them. This will almost always turn into a long term relationship.
(sleeping over after a party without sexual pressure = massive comfort builder)
I rarely comment because I have nothing to add. Just wanted to say I love your blog and read all of it
Thanks Bjarne. That comment right there is great!!!!! As long as you guys love the blog, I will love writing it. Keep the comments coming even if they are just small ones. The more comments I get the more I will write most likely lol.