How To Compliment A Woman’s Hair

by Serendipitous

in Flirting

Since I’ve learned how to actually do all of these things since starting hair school, I figured this would make a great post for you guys since we’re all here to get better with women.

One of the biggest reasons women get their hair done to get attention from men and the sad part is, the biggest complaint is that we don’t notice what they’ve done, and they put hours and hours into their hair sometimes. Simply knowing what she’s done to her hair can raise your value in her eyes. Trust me, I’m talking to them all the time about this. So take the time to educate yourself a bit with this here hair “glossary”.

I’ll break this down into categories. First up is:


This is by far the most popular thing women are doing to change their appearances, but there are many things you can do with color.

Women get highlights and low lights to add depth to their hair. Highlights are streaks or very small sections that are colored brighter than the rest of the hair. Oppositely, low lights are darker than the rest of the hair.

Highlights are the blonde, lowlights are the brown, in the middle is red. The three colors together add depth.



Actually, there are both highlights and lowlights in this picture.

The highlights are the platinum blonde and the lowlights are the

strawberry blonde.

Bold Colors

A lot of women are getting bold colors done, mostly alternative girls, but not always. Bold colors give an edgy look and separates women from your “run-of-the-mill” look. Here are some examples of bold colors:

The purple here is a zonal technique, as it does’t go

from the beginning of the strand to the end.

This is a peek-a-boo technique where one color

is under the other.

Hair Cuts

This can get pretty in depth very quickly because there are a million kind of haircuts. I’ll give you some basics so you pick things out.

One Length Hair Cut:

There are many types of one length cuts but for the most part, most of her hair

will be one length. This usually does not include her fringe area (fringe = bangs).

Layered Hair Cut:

A layered haircut basically means her hair is cut at all different lengths.

They are usually blended so it doesn’t look choppy. Layered hair

styles give body and movement.


A bob is a short haircut between ear and shoulder length. These appeared in the 1920′s when thousands of women, inspired by fashion designer “Coco” Chanel (Chanel, you know, the product?) and movie starlets Clara Bow and Louise Brooks, headed into the barber shop’s to get their cut short. The beauty parlors were refusing to cut their hair that short and lost business to the barber shops. They eventually caved and started doing them.

The modern bob can best be described by its interplay with the shape of the face. A woman who gets a modern bob can expect her stylist to carefully study her chin, forehead, brows, nose and cheekbones, because the bob can be designed to call attention to a single one of these features, or to a more general facial area (forehead and brows, chin and cheekbones). As there are tons of different styles of bobs, here are a few.

Pageboy Bob:

Short Bob:

Inverted Bob:

Front view

Back view

Forward Fringe Bob:

Boxed Bob:

Classic Bob:

Concave Bob:

Asymmetrical Concave Bob:

Angled Bob:

Blunt Bob:

Layered Bob:

TRIVIA: The bobbie pin got its name from it’s use in bob cuts back in the 1920′s.

Short Women’s Cuts

Not that I’d ever consider dating a girl with short hair (it’s too boy-ish for me, yuck!) but some women these days, for whatever reason, like to cut their hair short. I’ve asked around and the foremost reason that girls cut their hair short is after they move out of their parents house, it’s an act of rebellion after being told for years that they couldn’t cut their hair. The second most common reason is that shorter hair is easier for a busy professional woman to style quickly.

Pixie Cut:

The ‘Why-On-Earth-Would-You-Do-This-To-Your-Head-Bitch?’:

I don’t get why some women want to be bald. Did it work for Sinead O’Connor? Does it work for this girl?

Boy Cuts:

Women have been getting boy cuts as early as the 1920′s when bob’s were the rage. Ever since then women have been getting their hair cut like boys in an effort to achieve equality.


Shag hairstyles are very popular and creative styles that can be worn in many different ways. These were introduced in early 60′s and continued to be hottest trend even today.

Long Shag:

Medium Shag:

Short Shag:

Trendy Shag:

Ok.. That should give you a good head start. Enough about cuts. Let’s move on to hair designs and updo’s.

Let’s first go over some components. Most guys should be familiar with these things but just in case.


Curls are either natural or unnatural. If unnatural, they are either permanent

or temporary. A perm will give naturally straight hair a permanent curl.

Natural and permanent curls:

Temporary curls are done with different size curling irons or hot rollers and look like this:

Can you notice the difference between them? The temporary curls are much larger than the natural ones.


There are a few different kinds of braids, check them out.

Regular Braid:

In regular braids, hair is taken from one section on the head and is braided to the ends of the the hair.

French Braid:

A french braid repeatedly takes more hair from the head and feeds it into the braid.

Sometimes there is a French braids cornrow, the difference is in the direction of the braid. French braids get hair from to the center from both sides whereas cornrows get fed from one side. Here is a

French Braid Cornrow:

And here are regular cornrows:

Both cornrow styles use hair wax to maintain neatness and give the hair a shine.

4 Strand Braid:

5 Strand Braid:

6 Strand Braid:

7 Strand Braid:

9 Strand Braid:

This is Arwin’s braid from Lord of the Rings. It’s quite intricate and very complex to do, this one took a couple of hours at least. In general, multi-strand braids are difficult to do.


Absolute worst thing she could to her hair. It’s like taking a lump of dog shit and mashing it in your hair. Fer-gods-sake!- DON’T date girls who do this.


An updo is when most of a woman’s hair is.. up. Go figure. There are a million and a half updo styles.

French Twist:

(Amy Adams was fucking hot in Wedding Crashers, wasn’t she?)

Fingerwaves & Pincurls

Finger waves, aka water waves (because you use water to set them along with gel), and pin curls are styles that dates back to the early 1920′s. Here are examples from then (mostly later in this post) and now, as these styles have been revisited and updated.

Finger Waves:

Pin Curls:


Large Water Waves:

Hair Styles of the Last 100 Years:

An interesting retrospect on some of the hair styles of the last 100 years.


This decade saw a transition in hairstyles, from the more confined styles of the Victorian era to looser, fuller hairstyles. Curiously, both long and short styles were popular, with longer, free-flowing hair slowly gaining more converts as the decade progressed. Volume was the theme that ran through most of the popular hairstyles, regardless of hair length. Longer hairstyles featured hair parted in the middle (with a noticeable part), and long wavy tresses hanging below the shoulders. Shorter hairstyles generally began around the ears and ‘poofed’ up over the head in several updo styles, often held in place with barrettes and adorned with bows, or large, wide hats.

The Gibson Girl hairstyle circa 1900:

Evelyn Nesbit, in this photograph taken in 1901, has some of her wavy hair swept up to the top of her head, with the rest of her hair flowing past her shoulders in curling tendrils.

Topknot hairstyles circa 1900 – 1906:


During the early 1910′s, styles were long hair either pinned up elaborately or flowing and wavy. Popular accessories were big bows, jeweled pins, headbands, often adorned with fancy beads and stitch-work designs, and hats.

During the mid-1910′s, Irene Castle’s “bob” hairstyle was becoming very popular, a trend that would explode and be very controversial in the 1920′s.

One hairstyle that gained a lot of popularity (and some notoriety) was called “curtain hair.” This entailed parting short hairstyles down the middle, then letting the hair fall across a headband worn around the middle of the head, just above the ears. For more elegant hairstyles, women often constructed ringlet curls all along the headband.


The 1920′s saw the invention of the bob. Sleek short or wavy bob cuts, Eton crops, heavy fringes, waves, kiss curls, headbands, floppy bows, feathers.


Jean Harlow curls, the high drama Hollywood starlet look, severe partings, pin curls, the use of pomade, the Marcel wave look, finger waves, snoods.


Veronic Lake look, Victory rolls, pin curs, barrel curls, snoods.


Victory Rolls:

Various Styles:


Adding cocktail hats to short waves and curls, the Audrey Hepburn look. Pony tails and short fringes (like Betty Page below). Sleek chignons (a knot or coil of hair arranged around the back of a woman’s neck). Hair was worn flat to the head. Long hair in a Fifties French pleat.

Early 50′s Looks:

The Italian Boy:

Petal Coif:

The Pixie:

French Twist:



Bouffants, beehives, roller sets and backcombing (teasing), flick-ups, afros, Vidal Sassoon started the revolution of the inverted bob, the wedge and the asymmetrical cut, Mia Farrow crops, long flowing hair and headbands.

French Coiffures 1962:

Curls of Paris:

The Pageboy:

The Flip:

1969 Unisex Looks:


70′s styles tended to be more natural and got away from using accessories popularized in the 50′s and 60′s. Flick fringes, layers, center partings, braids, crimping, the shaggy layer cut, crazy colours, spiky gelled hair, the ‘gypsy’ cut, flicks and off-the-face curls.

Early 70′s Looks:


Eighties hair was either high maintenence – big, sprayed, curled, permed, highlighted, or easy care like Dianna’s mouse-coloured layered cut, or the wash ‘n leave perm. This era saw the popularity of the mullet haircut, we all know how well that one went over.

Volume & Height

Permed & Teased

Romantic Style with Layers

Short Graduated Cut

New Wave Style

Layered Spiky Cut

Short Nape Cut

Spiky Style with Graduated Layers


The hairstyles of the 90s weren’t as big as the extreme styles of the 80s. Many were still large, but they were more sexy and natural looking. Supermodels often played up their hair to great effect either to promote the fashionable clothes for Versace and other top designers on the runways of New York, Paris, Milan or London–or to sell fashion magazines. In 1995, Jennifer Aniston skyrocketed to fame as women everywhere clamored salons to get the now infamous “Rachel cut”.


Never before have so many hair styles of the past are revisited and updated as in the last few years. Everything from finger waves to bobs to pixies to shags, etc, etc. The newest and boldest styles are coming out in the emo rock scene in the last couple of years. Most consist of contrasting colors, precise and well defined cuts, sometimes even choppy, and can often be mixed with past styles. Many of these cuts take out the bulk of the hair past the ears. This creates a larger looking head area and a slimmer area past the shoulders, like so:

This one is an updated 50′s style.

This one combines bouffant, asymmetrical and layered cut.

And that about wraps it up. Now that you know a shit ton about women’s hairstyles, go out and compliment them!


P.S. Took me about 3 weeks to put this together so you better have gotten something out of it! :)   If you want more great tips go sign up for the newsletter right now here!


Edge July 21, 2010 at 6:55 pm

Damn dude, you weren’t messing around when you wrote this. This truly is the definitive guide to giving a woman a compliment on her hair!

wingman July 24, 2010 at 1:26 pm

Edge, you’re not kidding. This is SERIOUS! A great guide. I’m surprised it ONLY took you 3 weeks.

Sir flogsalot August 21, 2010 at 12:40 am


But seriously too much info to learn just to compliment some chic.

I used compliment girls that had long feminine hair alot because in my school too many broads would do the short boyish type hair styles.

SeanConnery October 5, 2010 at 6:13 pm

Good information young man. I feel like a scholar on women now. And that was Isla Fisher not Amy Adams in Wedding Crashers you boob.

Serendipitous November 27, 2010 at 6:58 pm

“that was Isla Fisher not Amy Adams in Wedding Crashers you boob.”

Well good sir, I stand corrected.

“I’m surprised it ONLY took you 3 weeks.”

Well, I didn’t include the 7 months of hair school in that figure, :)

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