Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 9: Getting the Number

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 9: Number Close

Legend:

The next step is getting the number.  A lot of guys wonder how to get a girl’s number or how to ask a girl for her phone number. Really, this one is short and sweet – a lot of people complicate the entire getting a girl’s number situation.  If you can start the conversation and get them interested in talking to you, you can get the number almost every time.  All you have to do is just ask for it.

At this point, don’t think about flakes or deal with them.  Right now, if you are at the point where you learning to get into conversations, you should ask the girl’s number before you part ways, just so you get in the habit of asking them.  For so many pickup artists, this is a huge sticking point where they remain for six months can open and start conversations, but they don’t get numbers because they just don’t ask for the number.

All the number is… is a number.  It just means she’s open to the idea of talking to you more right now. The best tip for exchanging numbers I can think of is make sure she saves it in her phone. You never know if they will pick up or not. I’ve had girls that I’ve made out with not pick up the phone and I’ve had girls that I talked to for a minute pick up the phone.  You will never know unless you try calling. At this point, get into the habit of doing it with everyone. Get their number, just ask for it. If they don’t want to give it to you for some reason then fluff talk some more or more make them laugh some more or connect little more ask again and you’ll get it without failure.

Edge:

I completely agree with Legend:  Getting numbers is easy and over-thinking about it is a trap.  Avoid that trap.

One thing to remember is that you NEVER know.  Don’t assume you do.  Don’t assume you know whether or not she’ll give you a number.  Don’t assume she will or will not pick up.  Don’t assume anything.

Instead, just go for it.  You always win:  you’ll either get great experience or you may end up getting laid or starting a great relationship.  You never know.

During the initial phase of learning to meet women, I always asked for their number just to get into the habit.  This was a great and very useful practice for me.  However, these days I do things differently now that I am used to asking for numbers and completely comfortable with it.

These days, I assume the follow-up.  What does this mean?  Well, once I’ve talked to a woman for more than 5 minutes, I’m going to start tossing out imaginary things that we’re going to do when we hang out.  If I happened to mention a carnival and she said, “I love the carnival!” I might respond with something like, “You know what? We totally should go to the carnival together,” and then I’ll follow it up with some really silly playful push like, “oh wait, what am I talking about? You’re weird, I don’t even like you.”  (I would say something like this with a big, playful smile on my face.)

Over the next few minutes, I would just talk with her and imply that we have plans…  Or just explicitly make plans.  Depending on the girl and situation, sometimes I’ll use direct game and sometimes I’ll use indirect game (my criteria for what I’ll use is a different discussion for a different time).  All in all, the basic rule is that I will set up the date and make her feel that feeling of “of course we’ll hang out!” before I ask for the number.

One great tip someone mentioned (I can’t remember who or I would give credit) – he said to give the girl some kind of playful nickname during your conversation.  That way, you can use it when you call her and re-establish the memories and feelings she had with you during the first conversation.  In NLP terms, one might call that a conversational anchor.

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