Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution Part 5 Part B:
Introduction:
Now I want to talk briefly about the different styles of opening and about opening routines. Everything can work weather it be an Indirect opener or Direct opener.
Many people prefer different things and different situations call for different approaches. Also some integral elements to approaching such as False Time Constraints, Body Rocking, and Rooting
Legend:
Types of Conversation starters and Openers
Situational
A situational opener can be used anywhere. This is where you comment on something in the surrounding environment that you see. Whether it is something someone else is doing something, about the venue or something that a girl was wearing. These are extremely low risk and well almost never get bad reaction or blowout.
Examples:
Talking about the weather
Talking about something you can see
Talking about something that’s happening
Talking about random comments that you don’t really pre-plan
Questions and Opinion Openers
Opinion openers are classic community openers such as “Who lies more”, “Jealous girlfriend”, or “Spells.” The basis behind opinion openers is that you are just asking a question. They’re great and work well in social bar and nightclub situations. They are very useful for people just starting to work on their social skills. When you have a good question you can make the conversation about it for 20 minutes. This is not ideal for solid game, but a great way to get started.
Examples:
There are many classic community openers. I suggest making your own based on something women talk about.
Direct
A direct opener is a type of opener where you express interest in talking to the girl immediately. These can vary widely from expressing interest in her clothing to telling her that she is sexy and you wanted to come over to meet her. The more interest you express, the more you instantly force her to make a decision whether she wants to talk to you or not. This doesn’t give you time to win her over, but the upside is that if she complies you are already setting the framework for the interaction. It is usually a good idea to be qualifying her immediately after direct opener. We’ll talk about qualifying and screening in a moment.
Examples:
Hey, I’m _______ I just had to come meet you.
You are adorable I just had to come meet you.
You sexy as Fuck I just had to come meet you.
Screening and Qualification Openers
A screening or qualification opener is where you are seeing if she will live up to your standards right off the opener. These are a type of direct opener, but from a screening perspective.
Examples:
Who are you?
Are you guy’s fun?
False Time Constraint
A False Time constraint is a technique that gives the impression that you are about to leave, so whoever you are starting a conversation with doesn’t think that you will hang around all night all night in the event that you are annoying or boring.
Verbal False Time Constraints
These can be used at any time during opener or whenever you need to convey the fact that you were about to leave.
Example:
Real quick
I have to get back my friends
I only got a second
I have to go but
Nonverbal False Time Constraints
Body Rocking is a technique where you move in and out giving the impression that you were about to leave. This can be done by taking steps or by just shifting your weight from 1 foot to the other.
Rooting in Your Opener
This is the technique where you give a reason why you’re asking the question.
It sometimes is necessary with opinion openers if your delivery is off or if they ever ask you why you asking me this. It is a preemptive technique.
Example:
My buddies and I were having an argument and we need a female opinion to settle it
My buddy had (some situation) happen to him; I want to get a woman’s perspective
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I feel like this entry could use more of a how-to approach, instead of just defining what the terms are!
Otherwise, love the site, cant wait for more material!
Jason,
The examples are more of the how-to. In an approach sequence, you decide on the opener and go from there. Throughout your interaction, you can add other things such as the false-time constraints, rooting, etc.
What exactly are you looking for in terms of the how-to? It’ll help Legend and Edge get a better idea of how to answer.
Hey Jason,
In this section, the one and only goal of “opening” is just for something to come out of your mouth and to cross the imaginary line between having no overt communication with starting some form of an overt conversation (note that I did not say verbal conversation as one could begin non-verbally and still be effective.)
Infinity is right – I need a little more info from you to know what you’re looking for in an answer, but my suspicion is that you might be looking for how to “hook” or get into a conversation beyond just initiating conversation. We’ll get to that, don’t worry…
I think you nailed it on the head guys.
If I have a hook, or somewhere to lead the conversation, I have no qualms about approaching. But to approach without any real idea or framework to work towards is one of my worst nightmares. The sea of uncertainty AFTER the opener is the part to dread for me. I suppose I’m looking for a more in-depth look at how to judge situations and come up with ideas on the fly.
K – we’ll get into it in upcoming posts about what we’ve done and how we frame it.
Just off the top of my head though, using something for training wheels isn’t bad. Personally, I worked as a product promoter for a couple years. I would be in bars offering products to people to try (usually liquor or a zippo lighter or something). I didn’t *need* the job, but I did need the crutch at the time to get used to talking to people.
I ended up getting REALLY good at it. There’s actually a book about how to get promotions jobs at http://www.smalljobsforbigmoney.com. I personally recommend it as a great avenue to practice your talking with women and using some of the technology you’ve learned.