Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Skills Guide by Pick-Up Evolution
Part 3: Foundational Beliefs Part A
Legend:
Myths
There are many myths in society and in the pickup community. One of the greatest hurdles I have found is the idea that we can come up with perfect lines and avoid rejection. If you got into the community through Mystery and the VH1 show “The Pickup Artist”, whether it is season one or two or by reading “The Game” by Neil Strauss, then you may have developed some bad habits without realizing it.
The community thinking from a few years ago was that the pick-up artist (PUA) can come up with this elaborate routine stack or through patterns that would convey their personality in a way that they would never get rejected. Also that you could have any woman you wanted. The more I study and the more I practice, the more I realize this is not true.
I’ve found that to really go out and get good at this, you must “become used to the approach” and embrace rejection. If you can embrace rejection and continually practice and push your comfort zone, you will learn this stuff very quickly.
There is no magic bullet, but there is a secret. The secret to getting good is to become confident with women. Now don’t roll your eyes because you’ve heard that before 100 times… I am going to actually explain what this means in a way that you can understand concretely and apply in your life later in this article.
We have a limited amount of time in our lives and we can use it to cultivate value within ourselves. Society pitches that we need good looks and money to be successful with women. This is not necessarily true. Women want emotional stimulation, so I feel that instead of cultivating your wealth or trying to attain some ridiculous standard of beauty, it is much easier and sensible to cultivate your confidence and humor.
Let’s look at how men work. When deciding if we are attracted to a woman or not, we look at visual cues. We think logically and step-by-step. To get good with women we need to realize how they work, how they think, and above all what they are attracted to.
I am going to state this very simply because there is no reason to make this complicated. I would encourage you to read each sentence and contemplate it – what it means, what it looks like, what are the implications. Really contemplate each sentence of the next paragraph.
Women are attracted to behavioral cues. It takes them longer to select a mate and they think emotionally. It doesn’t matter what you look like, if you can stimulate them emotionally. They look for confidence and humor above all else.
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It doesnt matter what you look like? Sorry that is a bunch of crap. Women do not value looks as much yes true, however they do value looks. They have too. Why would they want to mate with an unattractive mate? You are very wrong on this one…
It doesnt matter what you look like? Sorry that is a bunch of crap. Women do not value looks as much yes true, however they do value looks. They have too. Why would they want to mate with an unattractive mate? You are very wrong on this one…
I don’t think it should be taken literally. Women do value looks, but not as much as it’s perceived. If you walk the streets, how many times have you seen a guy with a hot girl and asked yourself, “how the hell did he get her?”
Clearly, he didn’t “look” like he deserved her, right?
There are other ways to win a woman over than looks. That’s the point.
I don’t think it should be taken literally. Women do value looks, but not as much as it’s perceived. If you walk the streets, how many times have you seen a guy with a hot girl and asked yourself, “how the hell did he get her?”
Clearly, he didn’t “look” like he deserved her, right?
There are other ways to win a woman over than looks. That’s the point.
“It doesn’t matter what you look like, if you can stimulate them emotionally. They look for confidence and humor above all else.”
That doesn’t state that looks don’t matter. Sure they value looks but whats a good looking guy? One who is in shape and has a good fashion sense. Women respond differently they respond to social status more. Its not to say that a GQ model has a leg up at first but after you both start talking a short guy can definitely out game a GQ model.
“It doesn’t matter what you look like, if you can stimulate them emotionally. They look for confidence and humor above all else.”
That doesn’t state that looks don’t matter. Sure they value looks but whats a good looking guy? One who is in shape and has a good fashion sense. Women respond differently they respond to social status more. Its not to say that a GQ model has a leg up at first but after you both start talking a short guy can definitely out game a GQ model.
Hmm.. Id like to hear others opinions as to what kind of humor appeals to women, I’ve found my style of humor seems to appeal to men more than women, I suspect others would agree. A good example of this is compare mens mags (eg top gear, FHM, loaded etc) to womens mags – the mens mags are generally humorous throughout, the womens mags – barely funny at all. So what DO girls find funny?
Hmm.. Id like to hear others opinions as to what kind of humor appeals to women, I’ve found my style of humor seems to appeal to men more than women, I suspect others would agree. A good example of this is compare mens mags (eg top gear, FHM, loaded etc) to womens mags – the mens mags are generally humorous throughout, the womens mags – barely funny at all. So what DO girls find funny?
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