Totally – I agree.

If you want to be “good at screening”, have as clear an idea of the type of woman you want (and don’t want) as possible. And respect yourself enough not to settle for less!

On a related subject, I think it’s useful to get clear on what you’re bringing to the table *and* what you and the potential girl will bring to the table in your relationship (whatever that looks like, whether it’s very short-term or a long-term relationship).

I believe that when you really acknowledge what you’re bringing to the table, you will recognize the value of who you are in a relationship and why settling doesn’t do anyone favors. When I was starting with this stuff, I used to have this feeling/attitude that I was like a king/judge sitting back and judging the girl. That was what I was taught and I didn’t know any better (the truth is that the whole course itself was laced with this stuff….)

These days, I look at screening women with an open-heart – I am not putting her on a pedestal, but I’m not putting myself on a pedestal either (by propping myself up, convincing myself I am some hot-shot who can judge people or something). I leave myself open and vulnerable to be seen and evaluated as I am and I observe her. I do make judgments of how she’d be in different scenarios, but I don’t judge her as a person. My point in all this is that there is a way that we can do this that is actually quite considerate and caring. I like that.

Totally – I agree.

If you want to be “good at screening”, have as clear an idea of the type of woman you want (and don’t want) as possible. And respect yourself enough not to settle for less!

On a related subject, I think it’s useful to get clear on what you’re bringing to the table *and* what you and the potential girl will bring to the table in your relationship (whatever that looks like, whether it’s very short-term or a long-term relationship).

I believe that when you really acknowledge what you’re bringing to the table, you will recognize the value of who you are in a relationship and why settling doesn’t do anyone favors. When I was starting with this stuff, I used to have this feeling/attitude that I was like a king/judge sitting back and judging the girl. That was what I was taught and I didn’t know any better (the truth is that the whole course itself was laced with this stuff….)

These days, I look at screening women with an open-heart – I am not putting her on a pedestal, but I’m not putting myself on a pedestal either (by propping myself up, convincing myself I am some hot-shot who can judge people or something). I leave myself open and vulnerable to be seen and evaluated as I am and I observe her. I do make judgments of how she’d be in different scenarios, but I don’t judge her as a person. My point in all this is that there is a way that we can do this that is actually quite considerate and caring. I like that.

Be safe and do your best to make a woman’s life better than it was before she met you. Others have said it, “Leave her better than you found her,” which is a good way to say it, but I just didn’t want to imply that you have to “leave” anyone to learn and grow.

I think you’re right on track. Have fun!

Be safe and do your best to make a woman’s life better than it was before she met you. Others have said it, “Leave her better than you found her,” which is a good way to say it, but I just didn’t want to imply that you have to “leave” anyone to learn and grow.

I think you’re right on track. Have fun!