Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution
What is qualification?
Qualification is a mechanism that will allow you to do two things. The first is that it will verbally set up a screening frame where you can show that you have standards that you want a girl to live up to. This will begin to create a frame where you are challenging the girl and she has to live up to your expectations. It will build investment and compliance through screening questions.
The second use of qualification is to test for compliance. Using screening questions you can easily see how invested a girl is in you by how much she will comply with your qualification. If you qualify a girl on something simple like ‘can you cook’ and she doesn’t have enough attraction to answer you then you know you need to run more attraction. If you try to move her or try to qualify her on what her passions and she wont answer you know your not in a rapport stage yet and you need more attraction. If you try to sexually qualify her and she won’t comply you know you need more comfort and rapport before she will comply to your sexual screening. If she is complying to your sexual screening then you know you can move directly to a close.
Using qualification to figure out how much compliance you have is the best way to quickly move forward in the set.
Using qualification
I think its extremely important to start using qualification very early in any interaction. Start of simple using simple situational qualifiers to see if you have enough value so you can start building compliance. There are many community classics that are simple things like:
Can you cook?
Are you adventurous?
Are you spontaneous?
Are you fun?
Your not bad news?
Are you cool?
The point of these is to begin your qualification and start to build compliance. If she won’t answer simple yes or no questions you need more attraction. Once she complies with simple qualification questions then you can try for the ones that require more investment. These are more building rapport getting to know each other qualifications:
What do you for fun?
What do you have going for yourself?
Tell me your 3 best qualities?
These require more investment on her part and if she won’t answer these you know you are still in the attraction phase and not the comfort phase. Build more attraction and then try to qualify her again. After you have built more compliance and you know that she is attracted to you and becoming more invested in you then you can sexually qualify her. This is more advanced because you really want to deliver sexual qualifiers well which I will go over in its own article.
Related posts:
- Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 23: Teasing, Negs, Breaking Rapport and False Disqualification
- Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 24: Push Pull
- Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 28: Pulling Girls and Bouncing
- Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 25: Rapport, Comfort and Connection
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Recently I have been meeting a ton of girls through friends. I am recently single so I did not know any of these girls but many of them are friends with my guy friends. I am just wondering if it would be normal to qualify them even though I have already been introduced to many of them but have not really talked to them that much or tried to game them at all. Qualification seems to be my preferred way of gaming on girls and I do do it to girls I don’t know, it seems to come the easiest and they seem to like it, but I’m just curious as to if you had any thoughts on it and gaming friends of friends. Many of the girls seem comfortable around me I’m guessing since we have the same friends in common.
Recently I have been meeting a ton of girls through friends. I am recently single so I did not know any of these girls but many of them are friends with my guy friends. I am just wondering if it would be normal to qualify them even though I have already been introduced to many of them but have not really talked to them that much or tried to game them at all. Qualification seems to be my preferred way of gaming on girls and I do do it to girls I don’t know, it seems to come the easiest and they seem to like it, but I’m just curious as to if you had any thoughts on it and gaming friends of friends. Many of the girls seem comfortable around me I’m guessing since we have the same friends in common.
Hey JT,
I would say you should have a clear idea of exactly the type of qualities you want the women you’re with to have. Have a clear picture for yourself and when it’s necessary and appropriate, you’ll automatically qualify women and it will come off as real and natural.
Do not think of qualification as something you have to do or perform. It’s more a case of you just acting from a place of clarity and knowing what you want.
And don’t be so concerned about gaming these girls. Sometimes being friends with a girl is MUCH better than hooking up with her… If you’re friends with her and she thinks you’re a good guy, she will introduce you to all her female friends and she’ll go places with you. Women like guys that have women around them, so long as the guy has a backbone.
Hey JT,
I would say you should have a clear idea of exactly the type of qualities you want the women you’re with to have. Have a clear picture for yourself and when it’s necessary and appropriate, you’ll automatically qualify women and it will come off as real and natural.
Do not think of qualification as something you have to do or perform. It’s more a case of you just acting from a place of clarity and knowing what you want.
And don’t be so concerned about gaming these girls. Sometimes being friends with a girl is MUCH better than hooking up with her… If you’re friends with her and she thinks you’re a good guy, she will introduce you to all her female friends and she’ll go places with you. Women like guys that have women around them, so long as the guy has a backbone.
Thanks for the advice edge, you definitely right about how I should know what I want, I just got out of a serious 3 year relationship 2 months ago and have been kind of going girl crazy with all the girls I have been meeting lately. I would say im still trying to figure out what kind of girl I exactly want and your right that needs to be sorted out first. And you are definitely right about the women liking guys with women around I have become friends with quite a few of the girls and its amazing how differently other girls look at you with girls around even before you say anything to them. Thanks again.
Thanks for the advice edge, you definitely right about how I should know what I want, I just got out of a serious 3 year relationship 2 months ago and have been kind of going girl crazy with all the girls I have been meeting lately. I would say im still trying to figure out what kind of girl I exactly want and your right that needs to be sorted out first. And you are definitely right about the women liking guys with women around I have become friends with quite a few of the girls and its amazing how differently other girls look at you with girls around even before you say anything to them. Thanks again.
I think you kind of gloss over the most important aspect of qualification: To ACTUALLY SCREEN her…and not just as some tactic into tricking her into thinking you have high standards.
I have no problem walking away from a girl that doesn’t meet my expectations I hold or possess the qualities I am looking for.
What should you qualify a girl on? The things you are actually looking for in a girl.
Let’s face it…some girls (no matter how hot!) are bad news or are just not gonna be the kind of girl you want to be around.
Why not use qualification to actually screen those women out!?
I think you kind of gloss over the most important aspect of qualification: To ACTUALLY SCREEN her…and not just as some tactic into tricking her into thinking you have high standards.
I have no problem walking away from a girl that doesn’t meet my expectations I hold or possess the qualities I am looking for.
What should you qualify a girl on? The things you are actually looking for in a girl.
Let’s face it…some girls (no matter how hot!) are bad news or are just not gonna be the kind of girl you want to be around.
Why not use qualification to actually screen those women out!?
Yeah good post on qualification. especially the bit about doing it to for compliance. Compliance is something I have only just really focused on as something of massive importance!
Yeah good post on qualification. especially the bit about doing it to for compliance. Compliance is something I have only just really focused on as something of massive importance!
You’re welcome man. Sounds like you’re doing good.
Be safe and do your best to make a woman’s life better than it was before she met you. Others have said it, “Leave her better than you found her,” which is a good way to say it, but I just didn’t want to imply that you have to “leave” anyone to learn and grow.
I think you’re right on track. Have fun!
You’re welcome man. Sounds like you’re doing good.
Be safe and do your best to make a woman’s life better than it was before she met you. Others have said it, “Leave her better than you found her,” which is a good way to say it, but I just didn’t want to imply that you have to “leave” anyone to learn and grow.
I think you’re right on track. Have fun!
Hey Adonis,
Totally – I agree.
If you want to be “good at screening”, have as clear an idea of the type of woman you want (and don’t want) as possible. And respect yourself enough not to settle for less!
On a related subject, I think it’s useful to get clear on what you’re bringing to the table *and* what you and the potential girl will bring to the table in your relationship (whatever that looks like, whether it’s very short-term or a long-term relationship).
I believe that when you really acknowledge what you’re bringing to the table, you will recognize the value of who you are in a relationship and why settling doesn’t do anyone favors. When I was starting with this stuff, I used to have this feeling/attitude that I was like a king/judge sitting back and judging the girl. That was what I was taught and I didn’t know any better (the truth is that the whole course itself was laced with this stuff….)
These days, I look at screening women with an open-heart – I am not putting her on a pedestal, but I’m not putting myself on a pedestal either (by propping myself up, convincing myself I am some hot-shot who can judge people or something). I leave myself open and vulnerable to be seen and evaluated as I am and I observe her. I do make judgments of how she’d be in different scenarios, but I don’t judge her as a person. My point in all this is that there is a way that we can do this that is actually quite considerate and caring. I like that.
Hey Adonis,
Totally – I agree.
If you want to be “good at screening”, have as clear an idea of the type of woman you want (and don’t want) as possible. And respect yourself enough not to settle for less!
On a related subject, I think it’s useful to get clear on what you’re bringing to the table *and* what you and the potential girl will bring to the table in your relationship (whatever that looks like, whether it’s very short-term or a long-term relationship).
I believe that when you really acknowledge what you’re bringing to the table, you will recognize the value of who you are in a relationship and why settling doesn’t do anyone favors. When I was starting with this stuff, I used to have this feeling/attitude that I was like a king/judge sitting back and judging the girl. That was what I was taught and I didn’t know any better (the truth is that the whole course itself was laced with this stuff….)
These days, I look at screening women with an open-heart – I am not putting her on a pedestal, but I’m not putting myself on a pedestal either (by propping myself up, convincing myself I am some hot-shot who can judge people or something). I leave myself open and vulnerable to be seen and evaluated as I am and I observe her. I do make judgments of how she’d be in different scenarios, but I don’t judge her as a person. My point in all this is that there is a way that we can do this that is actually quite considerate and caring. I like that.
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