Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution
Part 18: Framing and Frames
What are frames
Definition:
Framing is the basis to every aspect of your game. Framing is basically having the right attitude or perspective while interacting with women, which is very important. It is how you view the interaction and it is the underlying context to the interaction. One of our strategies is going to be intentionally choosing the most strategic viewpoint and attitude to use at different stages of the interaction.
In any communication, there are all communications, facial expressions and body language that is neutral. Sometimes these things do have a motive or intention and that motive or intention might be clear or ambiguous. Our minds have an urge to give meaning to everything. Frames are powerful because they are the lens you look through to determine the meaning of an these elements of an interaction. Frames tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies.
For example, someone who believes he is well-liked may interpret a rude comment toward him as if it were a joke and laugh about it. His response is likeable and his belief that he is well liked becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – he looks through the belief that people like him and so he responds in a likeable way.
Another person who believes he is disliked by everyone may interpret that same rude comment as a cutting personal attack and fly into a fit of rage. His response repels people and it too completes the self-fulfilling prophecy.
Same rude comment, two different interpretations because they were viewed through two different lenses.
Frames are powerful because they cause people to interpret the many ambiguous and neutral things that happen during an interaction. Most people do not hold powerful frames, so they are likely to go along with any strong frame presented to them if their actions are ambiguous. The result is that by holding useful, powerful frames that serve us in an interaction, women are likely to go right along with them.
Put differently – if we know how to create self-fulfilling prophecies, we should create positive self-fulfilling prophecies.
A frame is a focus or direction that provides an underlying basis for any thoughts and actions during the interaction. A frame will set the underlying meanings of the communication as well as any actions that result from it. The frame will provide an overall focus and a direction of the interaction.
Frames are not really existent in reality; they are not written or spoken. They only exist inside the thoughts of the people in the interaction. Everything is interpreted through them.
Most of the time when two people’s frames are not aligned, the stronger frame is dominant and overpowers the weaker one. A woman may or may not buy into your frame, but even if she doesn’t you will convey that you’re unwilling to buy into hers.
Good frames to set
Talking to strangers is normal
Everyone likes you and responds well to you
Girls are attracted to you
Girls always try to sleep with you
Girls are always chasing you
Making people fall into your frames
Who ever has the stronger frame always prevails. If you condition yourself to believe unequivicly in your frame then you will always maintain it.
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Let’s not forget some of the important Sexual Frames you should be setting like:
She is highly sexual being and tends to act on her impulses when she is with a guy she’s attracted to
She is adventurous
She loves exploring her “naughty side”
She can keep secrets
You are not judgmental
,,,and the list goes on & on in this direction….
Sexually Frame a girl early in the interaction and you won’t have to do much work after that….and you’ll almost never get LMR!
Let’s not forget some of the important Sexual Frames you should be setting like:
She is highly sexual being and tends to act on her impulses when she is with a guy she’s attracted to
She is adventurous
She loves exploring her “naughty side”
She can keep secrets
You are not judgmental
,,,and the list goes on & on in this direction….
Sexually Frame a girl early in the interaction and you won’t have to do much work after that….and you’ll almost never get LMR!
Hey Adonis,
I agree. In fact, I would say that a good way to supplement setting those types of frames really well is to spend at least 5 minutes a day imagining women acting exactly in that way towards you. Really, really making it a real experience for yourself through visualization.
I have found that doing this builds a “vibe” where this is communicated – the better I get at it, the less I have to set a frame verbally or intentionally in the interaction. I believe that naturals know to naturally visualize exactly the behaviors and outcome that they want with the women they’re attracted to.
Hey Adonis,
I agree. In fact, I would say that a good way to supplement setting those types of frames really well is to spend at least 5 minutes a day imagining women acting exactly in that way towards you. Really, really making it a real experience for yourself through visualization.
I have found that doing this builds a “vibe” where this is communicated – the better I get at it, the less I have to set a frame verbally or intentionally in the interaction. I believe that naturals know to naturally visualize exactly the behaviors and outcome that they want with the women they’re attracted to.
Frame surrounds everything else in game!
Frame surrounds everything else in game!
True. And the more you know what you want, the more that frame is effortless.
True. And the more you know what you want, the more that frame is effortless.
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