Pick-up Evolution

Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 17:  Sticking Points

What are sticking points:

A sticking point is going to be any part of your game that repeatedly seems to not be working.  A lot of people just starting in game have a sticking point where they can’t open.  Then they move on to the sticking point of transitioning or contact closing.

Sticking points can appear in many different places in your game.  Plateaus in game are also a common occurrence.  I see that many people in the community hit a certain skill level and then they stop developing.  This could be known as a plateau in game.  I think that plateaus and sticking points are basically the same.  They have similar symptoms in that you are not improving and getting better results.   I think that the same tactics that help avoid sticking points and removing sticking points works exactly the same with plateaus.

Dealing with Sticking points:

If you have gone out a lot or even if you are just starting to study pick-up I am sure that some of you have hit small or large sticking points that are inhibiting your game development.  Breaking these sticking points and plateaus comes down to first identifying what your problem is.  If you don’t know what the problem is you can’t fix it.  For example if you are getting tons of flaky dates you may have a sticking point with the congruence of your phone game verses your game when you met her in the club or bar.  Once you have identified the problem you have to implement a strategy to solve it.  Sticking points seem to develop becuase we are doing something and even if its not working we have a habit of doing the same thing over and over again with out realizing it.  To fix a sticking point you need to try new things that you have never done before and keep trying new things until you discover what works for you.  Its all about pushing your comfort zone and trying things that are unfamiliar.  Test, test, and test some more. When you discover what works you can build on it and increase your results.  Don’t get stuck in the rut of doing the same old same old.

Avoiding sticking points:

Once you understand how sticking points are created avoiding them is relatively easy.  The theory to avoid them is easy, always practicing in a way where you won’t encounter sticking points and plateaus is much harder.  Avoiding sticking points all comes down to pushing your comfort zone.  If you are hitting blocks in your development you probably aren’t trying enough new things.  If you are always testing and trying new things and building on the things that actually work you will start to see your results sky rocket.  If you are uncomfortable when you are in set you are probably learning something and pushing your edge.  Pushing your edge and consistently trying new things will help you and you will develop and move forward.  Remember what works and build on it . At the same time scrap what doesn’t work with out holding on to failing ideas once you have tested them.  Always try new things and you will always be evolving.

Related posts:

1. Legend – What are YOUR Sticking points?
2. Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 29: Dealing With Last Minute Resistance Part B
3. Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 29: Last Minute Resistance Part A
4. Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 24: Push Pull
5. Getting Started in Pick-Up Guide – Part 8: Staying in Conversation, transitioning, Multiple threading, and Hooking Part A

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