Introduction
Legend: After receiving so many emails from people who don’t know where to start in the game, we at Pick up Evolution are in the process of writing what is currently a 32 part series on most important stuff you will need to know to get out into the field and start seeing results.
There are many free guides available, but in my experience they are sorely lacking in that most of them were published years ago, when pick-up was treated more like a script-dispensing exercise. This is a guide on everything you need to know to have an understanding of the core elements of pick up. With this knowledge and with practice, you’ll have enough skill to pull girls and get a girlfriend.
If you read through it and practice you should have no problem getting a level of skill where you could have a girlfriend in 3 months.
These articles will be released every Sunday and Wednesday. If you would like the complete set immediately, it will be available to our dedicated readers through our newsletter as soon we are done writing it.
We pride ourselves on putting out better content than anyone in the community for free. That’s how our blog has grown to be one of the most popular blogs in this area of self-improvement in only six short months. Keep reading, commenting and checking back for the free new stuff we’ll be putting out in 2009.
Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core Concept Guide by Pick-Up Evolution
Part 1: Taking Action
Why you need to take action
Legend: If you’re here reading this, then you are taking the first step to improving your dating life. We all want to change and get better results or you wouldn’t be here.
To change you need to take action. It’s not going to come from reading or studying material. Study a little bit and then learn in real life in the field. An hour in the field is worth 100 hours of reading and watching videos.
For many years, we have developed bad habits and society has conditioned us into a walking daze where we don’t take action and go after what we want. Hollywood has conditioned us to always look for happiness in the future. The truth of the matter is if we don’t take action to change our conditions, they will never change.
If you follow the steps in this guide you will get your desired outcome. Some areas you will need to work on. Some will come naturally to you.
The bottom line is you have to take action and try new things to get results. Every segment will present a new concept for you to study and then go out and practice.
If you want to learn, you need to practice this stuff. We’re going to give you the tools that you will need for free. We’re not going to market this e-book into a $60 thing. We are all about sharing information. These are the core concepts of pick-up and seduction, which are hidden and spread around all the forums and websites.
This guide is our personal understanding of what we have been doing in 2008 in the field. Some of it is basic and some of it is more advanced, but it is easily on par with Magic Bullets or any other e-book you would pay for. Don’t over-complicate your life by learning things you won’t need. Keep it simple in practice and you will get results.
This article set is stuff I currently use. It reflects my current understanding and experience of it.
Levels of Understanding
Edge: When it comes to learning a new skill set or area of study, I believe we have some limiting beliefs in our culture that block our potential to really master something. I think it’s easy to assume that if you’re able to respond to questions by spouting back a little fact, you “know” it.
And why not? I mean, that’s what school taught us, right? You stay up all night, study study study, then regurgitate the information onto an exam sheet. I can’t tell you how many times I would pass a class only to have forgotten nearly all of the course material the following semester.
I want to discuss a concept that revolutionized the way that I thought about learning. I apply this to all areas of self-improvement, but it is especially true in the area of dating, seduction and pick-up.
The concept is depth of understanding. I think we’d all agree that there are some subjects where we have a basic understanding of what’s going on (enough to get by) whereas in other subjects we have a very deep understanding of what’s happening. Our deep understanding in an area grants us the liberty to not just understand or “get by”, but to innovate, to imagine, to strategize and to execute with finesse.
And executing with finesse is what we should all be aiming for. I mean, I think all of us know that we can get someone no matter where we are in the game. We’re in it because we want to get the best we can get.
And since we’re in this to get better results than what we’d been getting, then we need to get a deeper understanding of what we’re working with.
I can promise you that anything you feel you have a deep understanding of is something that you have working with extensively over a period of time. You didn’t just read books about it. You didn’t just ask questions on forums. No, you performed within the area you’re studying. You made mistakes. You felt, saw, handled, moved, reacted, strategized, and gained a lot of “real word experiance.”
Learning to improve with women is no different. You are not going to get skill from reading a book or watching a seminar. You may get enthusiasm. You may get inspiration. But you won’t get skill, and that is what you want to get.
Where do you get skill? In the real world… out there. That’s why Legend and I harp on it time and again. You need to be performing in this area of study to make any kind of progress. It is required… take it from me – I spent WAY too long studying and studying this stuff for years because I was too afraid to actually try it on my own.
Embrace mistakes. Embrace confusion. Embrace discomfort, embarrassment, anger, loneliness, sadness, frustration. Embrace all of it because by walking the actual path and actually participating in real life, you will continually be imbued with more and more skill. The more you can embrace taking on real life experiences and handling them, the more that you will have skill.
As a closing note on this: Being able to do the right pick-up move at the right time is only half of this game. The other half is resilience: Being able to handle everything that comes up, good or bad, and continuing onward. This all comes form experience.
How to practice
Legend:
You are going to need to create goals and follow them. If you want to get good you’re going to have to continually go out and practice. It’s not rocket science, but it will take time. The trick is that only you can hold yourself accountable. I can show you the tools and you can even watch skilled people in the field, but in the end no one else is going to open conversations for you and no one else was going to kiss the girl for you and I certainly can’t have sex with the girl for you.
You’re on your own to do these things.
The key is to do something rather than nothing.
Take small baby-steps toward your goal every day and you will get there.
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